Date: January 23, 2020 07:57AM
--No talking in the foyer or in the hallways
--No talking in the chapel
--Do not sit with your friends; sit with your family
--Class discussions are discouraged
--Do not ask questions
--Listen and be told.
--Lessons should strictly follow the manual, no outside info
--Speakers are given topics, usually an old conference talk
--Missionaries are given a topc, and are discouraged from giving too many details about their mission.
--No missionary open houses
--No travelogs in testimony meeting (those were the best!)
--No RS luncheons
--No RS monthly birthday parties, no cultural lessons
--The operation of the RS has been taken over completely by the Priesthood.
--No VT's. (They just gave the VT message from the Ensign, anyway. I don't remember talking about religion, or anything spiritual or anything personal with VT's, ever)
When I moved to Utah, the women in our ward had a neighborhood book club, and quite a few non-Mormon neighbors attended, also. We read all kinds of interesting best-sellers, some of which were controversial, but always g-rated. The new stake president made a directive, through his wife, who was in our book club, that the club should read only Mormon-written, church-approved, Deseret-published books. The Mormons out-voted everyone, to uphold the SP's decision. The non-Mormons quit the club, and a few of us quit along with them, and we started a club of our own, sponsored by a local bookstore, and it is on-going. The Mormon book club lasted about two more years, and they read all 9 volumes of "The Work and The Glory" a few GA's books, and all the Twilight books, then dwindled down into nothing.
The attitude of most of the Mormon women was to compete with each other, rather than to help or support each other. Like most narcissists, they liked to put down others, in order to build up themselves. Hence, all the gossip and back-biting. They viewed unmarried women as competitors for their husband. (Ick-no!) I did have several divorced friends in the ward, who were my real friends. They got remarried and/or moved away, so we see each other less often than we'd like.
As far as a "support system", I gave far more than I ever got in return, but the few times I really needed help, the Mormons assigned to me really came through for me--they really did, but they were men. My TV was a doctor and the Scout leader was a carpenter. I took dinners to them when they were sick--I took dinners to a lot of people, and helped with funerals, and such. There was some merit in that community, and it's sad to think that the Mormons are leaving that behind, in their quest to hoard money.
LOL--Our ward was a lot like jr. high, with cliques and pecking-orders. The "sisters" were/are jealous of each other. I know this, becasue they have admitted this to me, many times. IMO, Jealousy is a form of hatred.
Their daughters are the same. Some of the Mormon girls in the dorms at BYU were so awful, that we had to avoid them completely. When the gossip and slander would start, I would leave the room. In my daughter's YW class, the girls would bully each other, until they cried.
I don't know if the Mormon ladies still take turns giving group bridal showers and baby showers. I wonder if they still have MLM parties, selliing supplements, elixirs, lingerie to wear over their garments, jewelry, cosmetics, Tupperware, cookware, etc. I don't know, because I'm being shunned these past 11 years I've been free.
Wow, after thinking about the lives of Mormon women, I really don't miss any of it.