Posted by:
azsteve
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Date: May 29, 2020 09:06AM
I think that a person should be able to say almost anything here and should still be treated with respectful words. There is always room for respectful debate and to ask questions to get clarification. Some people make assumptions about another person's character and decide that if he or she believes this or that, then he or she must believe also that...... and is therefore this kind of a person (someone they categorize as unworthy of respect). Then it becomes their mission to enforce that paradigm against the person to the discrediting of any comment they make on any thread no matter how benign what they say is, based on who they have been categorized as being in the past. Even if these harsh judgements are accurate (which they usually aren't), trying to stop others from expressing themselves by using toxic shame, bullying, and enforced group-think (enforced by toxic shame and bullying) is not how it should be done. You can always tell someone that you don't agree with them without needing to assign an inflammatory label that may not be accurate or worse yet, to tell the person what your emotions about them are, or to snipe at their comments with innuendo that disparages the person as a means to try to suppress opinions that you disagree with, often pre-emptively. I have reported certain posts in the past, but never because the person's opinion opposes mine. Typically it is because the person is going so deep into toxic attacks against one or more individuals, that common decency is long absent from their words. Of course, anything can be called indecent to justify any position. But if highly personal attacks were to to be off limits here, this would be a more kind forum. If someone here feels attacked, they should be able to articulate about why, without being assigned yet another label as a diversion from the issue of the disrespect that they have been shown.
I don't think the moderators here have ever banned anyone. I might be wrong about that. But based on the dis-respect that transpires here every day, often by the same people, it would be difficult to envision it happening. A person could also have their account suspended for two weeks or a month for overt personal disrespect too. If properly managed, people of diametrically opposing positions could actually have productive dialogue as debate, that actually helps people who might otherwise be afraid to express their opinions because they don't want to be stomped on publicly. This might require some of us to read painful words that were probably not aimed at us to begin with anyway, and not lash-out in response, but instead to ask questions in a nice way. The would-be attacker may feel better about having taken the high-ground, not where others can see, but privately just within themselves. I have lost several arguements here by choice because I just didn't want to get that deep in to the mud with some individuals who to me don't seem to have many real ethics or core of who they really are anyway. But I don't say so in most of those instances. I just move on.