Date: December 21, 2020 02:55PM
I have been divorced for over 24 years. But the x husband still slanders me to our children/families/community.
Before I 'left' the church, I stopped attending altogether because every ward bishop would believe his 'stories'.
He would find out what ward I belonged and contact the bishop and tell them horrible lies about me and my family (I was a convert).
I am an introvert so it was easy for him to overshadow me and out talk me at every turn. I chose to ignore him.
Now I am retiring & moving closer to my grandchildren. Which unfortunately for me, the x already lives near this area. :(
I am worried (actually panicked)he will continue to slander me more at those events where both grandparents attend.
I have avoided him except for those events where I can't avoid him. The last time he slandered me (in public) was to the guests at our son's wedding reception. (As we were greeting people!?)
I am like a deer in the headlights as I don't know what to say. My kids don't like when he does this slander- but they don't challenge him because he is 'active in church' and I am not.
I wish I had the confidence to just tell him to F off. He has caused so much misery to myself and my children for the years we were together. All his schemes and deals. His constant unemployment and using the church to justify himself.