Entitled people telling other people they have a purpose, pleasing them. Energy runs out, guilt and shame over being used. Adults who never grew up because of childhood trauma. They compensate with strategies to make the world safe and pampering. If you do not do as they commands they will make your life very difficult.
and he said that if the people in my life would get therapy, I wouldn't need it. There is such a thing as the identified patient and everyone else thinks, "Well, she's getting therapy, so it must be her problem."
Oh well. 63 and I'll just be me the rest of my life and probably in therapy as long as my therapist keeps practicing.
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cl2 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > and he said that if the people in my life would > get therapy, I wouldn't need it. There is such a > thing as the identified patient and everyone else > thinks, "Well, she's getting therapy, so it must > be her problem."
That's a good point. Some therapy is damage control for how others treated us.
"In conclusion, based on current evidence QI believes that the twitter handle @debihope should be credited with constructing this saying. The attribution to William Gibson was based on a misunderstanding because he retweeted the remark. The ascription to Freud has no substantive support."
Glad to see I'm not the only polyglot of profanity on here.
For those who don't get it, "Cao Ni Ma" is a phrase (sorry, I don't know how to type pinyin, otherwise you'd see the exact pronunciation for it) that translates as "f--- your mother," usually treated as the equivalent of "f--- you" and "please beat the living s--- out of me" to folks who speak Mandarin.
vulgarities/curses tell you a lot about a culture's sensitivities. For example, the English term MF implies incest as the greatest crime whereas the Chinese term implies aggression and dominance, making weakness and victimhood the worst humiliation.
So there is, paradoxically perhaps, cultural anthropology in curses.