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Posted by: schrodingerscat ( )
Date: February 21, 2021 02:10PM

...first, make sure you are not just surrounded by assholes.” Sigmund Freud

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Posted by: Cauda ( )
Date: February 21, 2021 02:17PM

Entitled people telling other people they have a purpose, pleasing them. Energy runs out, guilt and shame over being used. Adults who never grew up because of childhood trauma. They compensate with strategies to make the world safe and pampering. If you do not do as they commands they will make your life very difficult.

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Posted by: cl2 ( )
Date: February 21, 2021 06:22PM

and he said that if the people in my life would get therapy, I wouldn't need it. There is such a thing as the identified patient and everyone else thinks, "Well, she's getting therapy, so it must be her problem."

Oh well. 63 and I'll just be me the rest of my life and probably in therapy as long as my therapist keeps practicing.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/21/2021 06:23PM by cl2.

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Posted by: ookami ( )
Date: February 21, 2021 07:03PM

cl2 Wrote:
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> and he said that if the people in my life would
> get therapy, I wouldn't need it. There is such a
> thing as the identified patient and everyone else
> thinks, "Well, she's getting therapy, so it must
> be her problem."

That's a good point. Some therapy is damage control for how others treated us.

Glad you found a good therapist.

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Posted by: lurking in ( )
Date: February 21, 2021 07:54PM

Because, although it's a funny quote, and sounds like pretty solid advice, I doubt he said it.

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Posted by: [|] ( )
Date: February 21, 2021 09:16PM

https://quoteinvestigator.com/2014/10/25/diagnose/

"In conclusion, based on current evidence QI believes that the twitter handle @debihope should be credited with constructing this saying. The attribution to William Gibson was based on a misunderstanding because he retweeted the remark. The ascription to Freud has no substantive support."

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Posted by: ookami ( )
Date: February 22, 2021 04:22AM

"Not every quote on the internet is attributed to the right person."

-excerpt from the "Cao Ni Ma" by Lao Tsu.

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Posted by: Lot's Wife ( )
Date: February 22, 2021 02:49PM

Leave that mom alone!

You'll understand if I say that a number of China's top weightlifters scream "wo cao!" when they ascend the lifting platform. It's China's reply to the Muslims who shout "Allahu Akbar!"

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Posted by: ookami ( )
Date: February 22, 2021 03:33PM

Glad to see I'm not the only polyglot of profanity on here.

For those who don't get it, "Cao Ni Ma" is a phrase (sorry, I don't know how to type pinyin, otherwise you'd see the exact pronunciation for it) that translates as "f--- your mother," usually treated as the equivalent of "f--- you" and "please beat the living s--- out of me" to folks who speak Mandarin.

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Posted by: Lot's Wife ( )
Date: February 22, 2021 03:45PM

There's the slightly more vulgar "cao ni ma lao bi," which I hope you won't translate.

So where did you pick up your guttural* Chinese?






*Pun intended



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Posted by: ookami ( )
Date: February 22, 2021 06:01PM

I tried learning Mandarin doing time at BYU-I. I can remember a few basic words and phrases, but I mostly learned I'm not that good with tonal languages.

I picked up some vulgar words and phrases from a friend (who should have been my older sister, to be honest) who studied Mandarin at the Defense Learning Institute. I've mentioned her before on here.

Says something about us that we know profanity in multiple languages.

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Posted by: Lot's Wife ( )
Date: February 22, 2021 06:10PM

vulgarities/curses tell you a lot about a culture's sensitivities. For example, the English term MF implies incest as the greatest crime whereas the Chinese term implies aggression and dominance, making weakness and victimhood the worst humiliation.

So there is, paradoxically perhaps, cultural anthropology in curses.

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Posted by: schrodingerscat ( )
Date: February 22, 2021 03:04PM

lurking in Wrote:
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> Because, although it's a funny quote, and sounds
> like pretty solid advice, I doubt he said it.


I'm pretty sure it's a joke.

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Posted by: forgotmyname ( )
Date: February 21, 2021 08:21PM

I love that. I needed that quote today, regardless of who said it.

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Posted by: elderolddog ( )
Date: February 22, 2021 03:24AM

Ditto...

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