Posted by:
Breeze
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Date: March 21, 2021 07:20AM
Several women are accusing a politician of sexual harrassment. I have read their accounts of his actions, and quotes of what he has said to them.
I want you-all to know that I have had ALL those things said and done to me by Mormons in my various wards, and most of the verbal stuff happened in bishop's interviews, behind closed doors.
I was unmarried for a long time, and divorced for an even longer time, and was a working mother, out in the business world. I had no husband to protect me, no father or brothers close by. As my sons got bigger, they stepped in to defend me several times.
I was a target. I looked nice, for work, and dated a lot, and was always very moral and modest. I was not beautiful or sexy, but I was a dancer and a model for a while. Growing up, I was in love and faithful to my high school boyfriend--no one measured up to him in sweetness, humor, intelligence, charm and good looks. I was open and friendly and very naive at first, and even later, I still gave people the benefit of the doubt. An average, polite, good Mormon girl, I did not deserve to be sexually harrassed by those creepy older men!
I just took it as "Obnoxious, repulsive, arrogant Mormon male behavior. AS IF I would ever want to have them put their hands on me or let them flirt with me! They were married! ICK! I grew up not liking Mormon men very much. The bishops that propositioned me, also propositioned other single women I knew, and those other women pretty much kept their mouths shut, like I did. The stake president's counsellor in his 50's did have success with a neighbor's married daughter in her 20's, and her husband caught them in bed together. I just assume the men who did and said things to me, did and said them to others, which is often the case. I wasn't one to think men were interested in me, or anything. In that way, I was an introvert, and rapidly became moreso, as I retreated into my shell around them and their wives. My divorced neighbor, who looked like a young Angie Dickensen, and was more submissive than I was, had a worse time than I had. The wives hated her.
I did not ASK or INVITE this behavior. I was repelled by these men. They made me more than "uncomfortable". They made me extremely depressed, and sometimes physically ill. I did not want to see them ever again, yet I had to go to church. I did not let my children be interviewed by these creeps, but when they came over to my house, mostly with their counselors, (never alone) I let them inside.
I wore thick clothes, so they couldn't see or feel my underwear. I know men feel for garments, and I just did not like it, but never considered that sexual harrassment--all the Mormons did it, and talked about their underwear. A former stake president offered to show me how to work the copy machine at the church, and he grabbed me and put his hand up my skirt. A single guy made a comment to me, in the kitchen at a ward party, and I didn't understand what he said. I had to ask someone what he meant, and it was something I considered nasty and perverted under the best of circumstances.
I had a man friend in our ward, and he and I would run into the bishop and his wife socially, at the symphony and at business parties, etc. That bishop would ask me in interviews if I had done specific and graphic sex acts with my boyfriend. He enjoyed picturing and describing things to me. I felt insulted and demeaned, and I would say, "No, no, you don't know me. I would never do that." Besides, my man friend was gay.
There was one bishop who kept complaining to me that "his wife didn't understand him." He used those same tired old words. He would tell me that he was "enduring to the end" in his marriage. I said that I was the wrong person to talk to about marriage, after my disasterous divorce.
Several times, I told Mormon men that I could not be phony or keep a secret, and that I had the bad habit of blabbing everything around to everybody, especially my sons or boyfriends. That seemed to stop them in their tracks.
Some Mormon men bullied my children, and I actually had to throw three different men, or groups of men, out of my house, on three separate occasions. My kids were there each time, and we finally decided to quit the church altogether. My kids were so relieved, that they cried. That's what really stopped the harrassment and bullying. We will never return, and will probably never really like or trust Mormons again.
No, sexual harrassment or child abuse has nothing to do with love or admiration or friendship or "caring" or anything good. These people are predators, and there are too many of them. Just like the cult itself, they don't care about women or children.
Sorry to ramble, but I could write a book. The accused mayor has nothing on the Mormon leaders we have endured.