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Finally Free!
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Date: July 12, 2011 12:26PM
I have hesitated to add my two cents on this topic... I'm new to the board, new to admitting to myself that the church is false and new to talking about it with other people. This whole thing is new for me and I'm not used to listening to other people's story and actually finding help and support from finding out that I'm not alone in my experience.
I followed your story because it was, well... interesting and wanted to be supportive. If the story is true then support and help is a good thing. If it is false, then it is no different than what the church did to many of us playing off our emotions to drag us into a story that isn't true.
People here can understandably be very hurt and upset by this type of manipulation.
I hope that you've been telling the truth, I want to believe that people are basically good and are just doing the best they can in any given situation.
There are two factors here that make your story seem very, very suspicious, even above and beyond the language analysis...
1. The post that started it all was obviously written as if from your SIL perspective. It was not deleted, this has been confirmed many times from reliable sources, it was EDITED by you to change the dialog to make it sound like it came from you. How did you EDIT a post from your SIL and not know about it? I don't want to give you ideas for how I would have explained it, but the cell phone transfer does not explain how she posted something and within 10 minutes you *changed* that post.
2. The posts from you SIL and from you, within hours, if not minutes of each other all have the same IP address. I can write off the ones from your husband with the same IP, even using the same login, if you were using the same computer in the house, but you have stated quite clearly that you gave your SIL your cell phone and that she was "sending it back". I can buy that the IP address didn't change for all communication from a single device. If it was never shut off and constantly connected, there are ways for that to happen. But that doesn't explain how the two of you, presumably living in very different locations can post messages here with the exact same device. Either she has a very fast messenger to get the phone back and forth between the two of you, or you (heck... or her) are posting for both people.
When confronted with these two pieces of evidence, you first asked if you were hacked and if you needed to change your password... Yet, your login, with a consistent IP address edited the post in question to make it more inline with story and character. Then you threw your "SIL" under the bus by stating that she must have been nervous and you were helping her out by sending her the phone to give her an outlet for support and help, but because of this one post, you were asking for it back. So, in one minute you're helping her out, but then, when there is a minor issue, which should have been explainable, with her accidentally posting as "you", you remove her supposedly one outlet for support? Later you claim you don't know what's going on with her... You have been in contact with her, even sent her a presumably expensive android smart phone, with a phone contract intact, but don't talk to her enough to know what's going on?
You haven't provided a viable answer to either of the points above. There have been no apologies for the confusion. If nothing else, there's too much drama here. For a while it was interesting, but now it's just sad.
If what you are going though, what you've posted here in the past, is true, I hope you find an outlet and get the support you need. If it's all a story, or even if it's been embellished to make it more interesting, I feel sorry for you. There's enough real pain and sorrow in the world, plenty of it right here on this board, that no one needs to invent more.