Posted by:
Ishmael
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Date: November 11, 2010 02:18AM
You write:
"It is not that those who protest at abortion clinics believe that they know what is best for the woman who wants an abortion. Rather, they believe abortion is killing, murder. While we may have great sympathy for a woman's situation, we don't believe murder is justified, or that it is the answer to the woman's situation."
Perhaps you do not see the contradiction in your statements. First you say, "It is not that those who protest . . . know what is best for the woman," then you say they "don't believe . . . it is the answer to the woman's situation," which implies that she is ignorant and you have the answer she lacks. So you don't "know" what is best, but you "believe" you have the answer that she does not have.
Unless there is some esoteric or semantic difference between "know" and "believe" (and for me there is, by the way), you are saying that your beliefs answer to your lack of knowledge. Map the distance between knowledge and belief. See the difference?
Know what you know; believe what you believe. Trust that other mortals do the same. Respect others' knowledge and belief as you would have them to respect yours.
You continue:
"Just like we would try to stop an enraged woman from killing her cheating husband because killing is wrong even though her circumstances suck, it's the same way with abortion."
Um: false analogy. These circumstances are neither "just like" or "the same way."
And then you conclude, "It's so easy to demonize a position you make no good-faith effort to understand."
True, all around. And if protesters made a good-faith effort to understand the ways that all human beings are exercising their free will, perhaps less demonization would occur. It is, in fact, the demonization that I abhor.
And now for your adoption post. You write:
"I can't speak for the poster you were addressing, but I would absolutely jump at the opportunity to adopt and raise a child, from infancy, who would otherwise have been aborted - regardless of the race or gender of the child. However, since abortion has been legalized, it's well nigh of impossible to adopt an American infant without any disabilities."
A bit ambiguous, depending on what the last prepositional phrase modifies; let's assume you are talking about the infant and not the potential adoptive parent. So you're not racist or sexist, but since the only adoptable infants around have disabilities, you're not going to jump at that task? Are disabled infants not "fit" for adoption? Do they not deserve life and love and your parenting? You wouldn't "jump at the chance"?
Look at the language of your next paragraph: "If you find a mother willing to give her child away, it costs several thousand dollars and is way more expensive than giving birth would be (if you have health insurance)." Look at the "if" clause again: "give her child away"? Then are you saying that the birth mother has to pay the thousands of dollars? The party adopting foots the costs of adoption is willing to pay the monetary costs of adopting. I'm also certain that no one forces anyone to adopt a child: parents make that deliberate choice for varieties of reasons. Biological parents may or may not intend to conceive a child they carry to term, but adoptive parents always CHOOSE to become parents, and the monetary costs are the least of the issue.
Finally, your "opinion" about infertile adoptive couples and the psychological difficulties of adopted children bears close evaluation. The generalization is hasty and gross. You put an increased burden on both the parent and the child, stigmatizing both sides. As an adopted child of loving parents whose hearts broke with every miscarriage and stillbirth, I can tell you that your assumptions are incorrect--at least in one case; my lived experience suggests the contrary. I had a wonderful childhood in a loving home, and I honor in my heart each and every day the people who were "willing to give me up."
How does your argument about the many liabilities of adoption (however illogical) support your anti-abortion stance? What is to happen to the children, especially the ones who no one "wants"? You do not address at all the adoption of kids who are not infants, which brings up the question of the age at which societal responsibility for children ceases. Why not give a home to an orphan or adopt an older child? Or, heaven forbid, an infant with disabilities, who, after all, is as loved by the Lord as every other human? And when the orphanages and foster homes are thoroughly depleted of under-age children, maybe, maybe, then protest against the people who are having abortions.
We do not take care of all of the ones who exist among us; your post acknowledges that we are highly selective, in fact.
Just for the record: I deplore the agony all around, all around, all around. I have no wish to add to it in any way, and I believe there are no easy answers. I presume to know no one's heart or mind, knowledge or belief. And that is the point.