Posted by:
Mnemonic
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Date: July 16, 2011 04:06AM
Our brains are designed to search for patterns. Infants are quickly able to learn their parents face and the sounds of their voice. This explains why people see images of Jesus or the Virgin Mary in everything from toast to tree stumps to water stains on windows.
Our brains look for other patterns as well. The one I find most offensive is when people say "I know such-and-such happened for a reason." There is no reason why things happen. People die in accidents every day and there is no "divine plan" that it was their day to die. There is no reason why one person lives and the person sitting next to them dies. It was just another random event in their lives. The only reason why it has any meaning is because WE assign a meaning to it. Specifically, I was thinking of the girl who died when her car drove into a sinkhole on a road outside Tabiona.
http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/news/52188517-78/collapse-continued-county-duchesne.html.cspIt wasn't her day to die. God didn't wash out the road to kill her. It was just a very tragic accident. Assigning some meaning or reason for her death may make her friends and family feel better but it doesn't make it so. It just makes it less painful to deal with.
Our whole life we look for answers to why things happen to us. Good people have sick children and people blame them for committing some secret sin. People who lie and cheat live in nice houses while those who work hard never seem to get a break. People smoke for most of their adult life and never get cancer while someone who never smokes does. Of course, many people who smoke DO get cancer and heart disease and often life doesn't seem fair. Religion, especially the LDS church, tells you that if you live a righteous life, you will be blessed so when crap happens to you everyone looks down on you and says to themselves "what did they do to deserve this?" and worst of all, we do it to ourselves as well.
The fact is bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. It's not about sinning or being righteous. It's about dumb luck; being in the right place at the right time (or the wrong place at the wrong time); and causality. If you speed, chances are you will eventually get into a wreck. Sometimes we cause our own grief but most of the time it's just bad luck.
The point I'm trying to make is, when something bad (or even something good) happens to you, you should take some time to see if it happened because of something you did or didn't do but don't waste your time trying to figure out the meaning behind what happened. It happened. Accept it. Figure out what to do about it and go on with your life.