Posted by:
Pista
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Date: July 30, 2011 03:19AM
I know a widely discussed topic on this board is sharing the word that the church is a hoax with TBMs.
I have generally avoided this. I have seen so many cases where people just don't want to know and it only causes strife.
Before I left the church, I was very close to my cousin's wife. They live across the country so I don't see them much anyway but since I left we have grown apart to the point that I have had no contact with her in over a year.
I never told her about my apostasy but I'm sure she knows I have at least drifted because last time she saw me there were obvious signs that I was no longer living the life of a TBM. She said nothing about though and we just avoided the topic altogether.
Most of my family is happily TBM and I am happy to leave them to it, but I think about her a lot, especially since I started hanging around here. I would love to see her get out of the church, especially since she has adopted three beautiful black children and the idea of them being raised in a racist church turns my stomach. I do give her credit that she does not have the usual racist or patronizing views that most mormons have, but I am still concerned for them.
Her husband, my cousin, is an ultra, holier-than-thou TBM. She seems to take a lot of comfort in the church. I am really scared that if I bring up the subject at all it will only cause her pain.
I'm not sure what kind of advice I am looking for here but this has been weighing on my mind a lot.