Here's the whole Facebook thread, preserved for all posterity. All names have been changed.
Original post:
Don't question!
Link to: LDS (Mormon) Stake Presidents Blog: Can Members Question Church Doctrine? An Answer From This Month'
stakepresident.blogspot.com
ExMo Friend:
How lovely!
TBM Cousin:
No where in that ensign article did it say "DON'T Question". It only states that if you do question to pray to God and ask him and to seek advice from your leaders and the Prophet.
NerdLinger:
Elder Ballard said, “We’ve got to be so solidly anchored in our testimonies of the gospel of Jesus Christ that, regardless of what may come next, we will not waffle; we will stand firm in our belief; we won’t question the doctrines that are part of our belief.”
TBM Cousin:
Yes, and I agree, but we can not get a testimony without asking questions, in fact, we need to ask questions, find the answers, and then, once we have the answers, we should stand firm in our testimony we have received.
NerdLinder:
I'll just have to disagree with you on that. To me "stand firm in your testimony" translates to "close your mind off to all the evidence that contradicts your preconceived notion, especially when it seems irrational." But that's just me.
TBM Cousin:
Thats fine, we don't have to agree on everything ;) I just believe it differently I guess.
TBM "Friend":
Once you have a testimony of the Church and the Prophet, you do not need to question Church Doctrin, the Lord will never allow the prophet to lead the church astray.
NeverMo Friend:
So, back to the point... what does one do when doctrine and reality don't match up?
NerdLinger:
You do the best you can with the best information you can find. And that means sources that both affirm and criticize what you think is true.
When you want to find out about Ford vehicles, you check with a dealer, but you also read Consumer Reports, check with current and previous owners and talk to a trusted mechanic.
As for me, I sent in my resignation.
Just a note, Pres. Paternoster is satire. But it's so true to reality that many readers fail to recognize it.
NeverMo Friend:
I know what you did. I want to hear what the apologists do.
Mrs. NerdLinger:
Stick their fingers in their ears and go "lalalalalalalala."
TBM "Friend":
Different people see things from different perspectives and experiences that shape their lives. What makes perfect sence to one person may not make any sence to another. To me, doctrine and reality always match up. As you prayerfully study the scriptures, youor mind is enlightened and it enables you to see things how they are, things become clear. Satan tries to distort things and confuse people. For the most part, most people I have seen that say negative things about the church or the Book of Mormon have not read or studied it for themselves, they go by what others have said. With something so important as your salvation, why trust in the arm of the flesh by taking someones elses word for it. Read it for your self, directly from the source.
TBM "Friend":
There is no witness until after the trial of your faith.
ExMo Vegan Lesbian:
If you keep posting this anti-Mormon rubbish on your page, I will be forced to delete you as a facebook friend. And then how will I be able to bear my testimony to you? Trust in His word: D&C 49:18. This verse just speaks to my soul and I think it will provide comfort to you in this time of tribulation.
Mrs. NerdLinger
[@NeverMo Friend], do you see how well [TBM "Friend"], whom I have never met, proves my point?
NerdLinger:
[@ExMo Vegan Lesbian], how dare you call the stake president's post anti-mormon!
[@NeverMo Friend], I respect your right to believe what you want. Even though I disagree with you, I hope your religion can provide to you what it failed to give me. The trial of my faith only showed me the futility of faith as a tool for discovering truth.
TBM Cousin:
Just because we disagree doesn't mean I don't love you :) Hope you know that
NerdLinger:
Oh I know.
You know how religious people say "hate the sin, not the sinner"? I hate the church, not its members. I don't begrudge anyone their faith, but I am honest in disagreeing about it.
TBM Cousin;
And thus so am I, honest in defending it. LOVE YOU!
TBM "Friend":
Exactly what doctrine do you disagree with? What doctrine has caused you to go as far as to hate the church?
NerdLinger:
[@TBM Cousin] Thanks. Love you too.
NerdLinger:
[@TBM "Friend"] Without getting overly specific, the church (not its members) has actively pursued, taught or knowingly permitted and therefore condoned many things I disagree with. Not all of these are unique to Mormonism, and I don't like any religion. Here's a partial list:
• Theism
• Lying
• Bigotry
• Racism
• Sexism
• Revisionist history
• Murder
• Mass murder
• Hypocrisy
• Polygamy and polyandry
• Child abuse
• Sexual abuse
• Psychological abuse
TBM "Friend":
Sorry, but I do not see how you can say the church would actively pursue, teach, or permit anything in that list. We do have our free agency, but not without consequences. The 10 commandments alone cover most of the items on your list.
It is the members that are not perfect, as for the church, it is perfect! For it is Christ's Church. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.
I don't know what has happened in your life to make you feel this way, but I can tell you that those people that have influenced you into believing this way are not true disciples of Christ!
Raptor Jesus:
The Mormon church is "perfect"? Really? That's why the past self proclaimed prophets spoke so openly and with such hate against black people? Why they have been so homophobic now? Why so many Mormon doctrines have changed over time? Why they spend more money building malls and hotels than helping the poor? Why they tortured gays at BYU? Why they allowed little girls to be taken as multiple wives under threat of eternal damnation? Why they can't even be clear about what their own doctrines are?
Really?
And led by Christ?
Christ must be either really dumb or really lazy or really mean to let his supposed church pull the kind of ridiculous non sense that the Mormon church has over time.
NerdLinger:
[@TBM "Friend"] No, the church has done all of those things. Here's an easy one: Theism. The church teaches there is a god. I don't believe in gods for the same reason I don't believe in Mother Goose. And here's another easy one. The church has a history of polygamy, that's a historical fact. But did you know that Joseph Smith has 48 women sealed to him? What's more, some of them were married to other men at the same time they were married to him. So you can tick off revisionist history, hypocrisy and lying too. And if you need proof, just go see his pedigree (link provided) and map out who was married to who and when. It was a damn orgy!
(link to
http://www.familysearch.org/Eng/Search/prf/individual_record.asp?recid=670090054 )
NerdLinger:
Oh, and with some of the wives' ages, we'll add child abuse and sexual abuse to the list.
Should I go on? Danites. Mountain Meadows Massacre. Giving blacks the priesthood, then taking it away, then giving it back. Blood atonement. Evergreen. Illegal demolition of a private printing press.
I could keep going ... And I can provide solid references on every one of these. Most, I can point you at sites owned and operated by the church.
You wanna know the real mind-bender? My doubt in the church started when I was a missionary, when I prayed 14 times a day and when I was studying only the Standard Works, missionary library (Jesus the Christ, etc.) and the approved manuals published by the church. Those influences you speak of that are not true disciples of Christ? Their names were Brigham Young and Joseph Smith.
Raptor Jesus:
"Satan tries to distort things and confuse people. For the most part, most people I have seen that say negative things about the church or the Book of Mormon have not read or studied it for themselves, they go by what others have said. With something so important as your salvation, why trust in the arm of the flesh by taking someones elses word for it. Read it for your self, directly from the source." This quote really struck a nerve with me. So much that I wanted to give it a little bit before commenting on it.
Raptor Jesus:
Because I've seen this kind of ridiculous, self-righteous, offensive, patronizing stuff before. Mormons can be so superstitiously offensive without even realizing it. As if everyone who disagrees with their racist, sexist, homophobic, jingoistic bullshit is simply deceived by some fictional character.
Raptor Jesus:
So, the rest of us who aren't Mormons - the 99.998% of the world are just being tricked. That we don't have the brain power to read the Book of Mormon and say, "Wow! The Mormon god causes skin color to change based on righteousness. That's awful." And that we haven't read about Joseph's two 14 year old wives and say, "Gross! Just like Warren Jeffs, and he's a goddamn predator." I have read the stuff. I know what Mormons have preached in the past and what they have hidden from even their own members, and what they preach now and will lie about in the future.
Raptor Jesus:
And that us non Mormons are just supposed to roll over and give this crap a free pass because it's "religion" and "sacred" to someone else. Well, too bad. I don't find racism, sexism, homophobia, etc. to be sacred.
TBM "Friend":
[@NerdLinger] when you get information contrary to the church, you need to check your sources. I used the link for the "individual record" above and it goes to a fake site. The churches site uses "HTTPS" not "HTTP" I realized that after I tried doing a search to find the information myself and could not find a match. Things are not always as they may seem.
TBM "Friend"
[@NerdLinger] I realize nothing I can say is going to change your mind, you are going to believe what you want to believe. I feel bad because I have known you since before you were one of my cub scouts and I have a lot of respect for your family. Please just be careful, it is very difficult to know when information is legitimate.
NerdLinger:
[@TBM "Friend"] I found record (with your https) that shows your prophet having 57 wives. Other records I found have him with 33, some with 34 and others with 45. I'm not doing your research for you.
Don't feel bad for me. I found out that the church is a sham, not only that, it's an abusive, lying murderous, bigoted, hateful organization.
You wanna go pray, pay and obey, that's fine by me. But I will never stop mocking, criticizing or working against the church. And you want to know why?
One word: LOVE
One day, someone in my family is going to realize that the church isn't what it claims. And on that day, I want them to know that I knew that years ago. I got out. For all the pain it caused my parents and family, for all the anguish it caused in my own life, I GOT OUT.
I am proud to say I am no longer a Mormon. For those who want out of the church, I will be that helping hand.
(link to
https://www.familysearch.org/search/treeDetails/show?uri=https%3A%2F%2Fapi.familysearch.org%2Flls%2Fpal%3A%2FMM9.2.1%2FSP6X-Q65 )
NerdLinger:
And one more thing, both sites are legitimate. The new Family Search site uses https. But on its homepage you can find a link to the old site, which uses http. Both are valid. Both are owned and operated by your church. You can find the same information on both sites. It's just organized differently.
You are right, things are not always as they may seem.