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Stray Mutt
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Date: August 17, 2011 12:08PM
Way back when I was a cranky teen, my mother wanted me to help clean the house in preparation for a party. She wanted the entire house spic and span, not just the areas guests would see. (Looking back, I think it was just her excuse for cleaning the whole house.) As I was helping her rearrange a storage room in the basement I asked if, when she visited other people's homes, if she snooped around, looking for something wrong.
"No, of course not. But I know others do."
That's one of the big ideas of Mormonism, isn't it? God and everyone else is watching your every move, ready (and eager?) to find fault. In a subculture obsessed with perfection, you're going to have people who know they're not perfect looking for the imperfection of others so they don't feel like such failures themselves. And that makes them doubly suspicious others are doing the same thing to them. That's a hard way to live.
Another time, I was about to leave the house in ratty jeans and a faded T-shirt. She demanded I change because, "What sort of parents will people think you have that would let you dress like that?"
I replied, "If they know you, they know you're good people. And if they don't know you, why would you care what they think?"
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/17/2011 12:11PM by Stray Mutt.