Posted by:
fallenangela
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Date: August 24, 2011 11:27AM
My thoughts are inspired by this post:
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,278749, however, they aren't entirely about that particular story, so I'm starting a new thread.
I suppose the difference, at it's core, is faith, but I simply can no longer imagine subjecting myself to the Mormon way of life. Specifically, handing over my decision making abilities to some guy who just happens to live near me, and happens to be placed in a position of power. The bishops I recall from my time as an active member were: a dentist, a businessman or two, and a cop. OK. So *maybe* the cop could be helpful in matters like the above story, but other than that - he's just a layman too.
I stopped attending church at 19/20 years old. Now that I'm in my 30s and a mom, I really can't imagine advising my daughter to seek a bishop's counsel for anything! Unless, of course, it's the dentist and she has a toothache but in that case, we'll go to his dental office, not the one at church.
It's not just seeking the bishop's counsel that I have a hard time wrapping my head around, it's the entire committment to having one's life more or less dictated by someone, or something, other than one's self. This entirely man-made set of rules about my eternal salvation. How many holes I can have in my ears. What my underwear looks like. How many children I have. What I can drink. What movies to watch. *shiver*
I see it as a very positive sign that I've gotten so far removed that I seriously can hardly remember what it's like to buy into the whole thing, and how, in considering what it was like, it's feels foreign rather than something I'm working my way away from. I've come a long way.
Going back to the original story - I'm encouraged by the fact that the girl's parents didn't take that bishop's counsel as appropriate and went outide the church for solutions. Maybe this is the beginning of the end for them, a little glimpse into just how weird their way of life has been, to give some neighborhood schmoe that much influence over the most personal and sensitive matters in their life. I can hope anyway.