Posted by:
bigred
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Date: September 09, 2011 02:24AM
I have a friend that divorced in Apr after finding out his wife was messing around with numerous men and in particular a married man that she believes will leave his wife for her. He told me today that he has decided to 'follow through" with his plan to tell this mans wife about the affair via certified letter.
When he told me he was going to do this I asked him why and he told me he wants to make his ex hurt and he wants to make the man she had the affair with suffer. I told him that I felt it was none of his business to tell the man's wife. I just can't believe that he would ruin a relationship and damage this woman and her children when it is not his place. Furthermore, what he believes or envisions will happen are not necessarily what will happen.
I told him if he really want's his ex to suffer, he should be indifferent and say nothing. Furthermore, it will make her suffer more if this man never leaves his wife for her. IMO it will only get her what she wants even faster and force the issue.
I told him that I felt he should focus on what he can control and the good things in his life - and once again, it is not his place or business to interfere with this man's wife. Am I way off base here? What say you all?