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Shy
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Date: September 10, 2011 03:34AM
Some of you will remember the topic I posted up about my unfortunate dealings with a relationship with my ex boyfriend. While we were both in the wrong on several occasions, my heart was torn between the dang church's teachings and going with what I felt inside--as corny as that sounds. Dear members of this site gave me good opinions about whether or not it was a good idea to send my ex a letter, who is now on a mission and has no clue I am no longer of the church.
We had something special, but overly clinginess on his part and fear and uncertainty on mine did not end well. Before he left we were on FaceBook message talking terms, just enough to exchange good byes before he left for the MTC.
Now that my mind is clear after having left the church, I see more and more of how and why things went as wrong as they did. So, I decided to write him the letter. Three times later I had something that was friendly, apologetic of past things I needed to apologize for, encouraging of what he believed in, and was just the cheery person I am generally known as.
But I have not mentioned leaving the church. Should I? He lives very, very far from me and I would not be able to confront him in person to talk things over. Maybe, when he gets back, he'll message me and we can decide on a phone chat. But I'm not even sure of that. He will be going home to another girl. Well, that's still just under two years to mull over.
But I have this letter that sits here, waiting for one last thought. I know my ex well--if I tell him I left the church when he gets back, he'll be upset that I didn't tell him sooner. But that's not the kind of news one wants to hear on their mission, I believe. I didn't even tell him that my father passed away just a month ago. I know he'll pout about me not telling him that either. But that's ....different.
So. I wouldn't mind some opinions from you lovely folk once again. Should I wait until I can tell him via phone, or send it to him in writing? Right now, I'm torn between the two. We had so much that, even though our parting was hurtful on both sides and he now has another girl, we are still friends. At the least, acquaintances.