Posted by:
robertb
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Date: September 15, 2011 10:23PM
Strykary Wrote:
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> Have any of you experienced this? Are you still
> trying to overcome it? Is this something I should
> even be concerned about? Is this just who I am?
> Should I accept it?
To answer your questions: Yes. Yes. Yes. No. Yes and No.
Inner Critics are very hard to deal with. If you defend yourself against it, it criticizes you even more. If you can adopt an attitude of compassionate curiosity--"So, my Inner Critic is going off again. What does he/she/it want? Is that realistic? Is that what I want? Is there another way of seeing this and feeling about it?"--that can help. The Inner Critic is very worried about doing things wrong.
Another approach you might try is to decide to make a number of small mistakes *on purpose*. For example, wear mismatching socks, deliberately use the wrong word 10 times a day--or do something else. If it is playful, that is even better. The idea is to desensitize yourself to the criticism and to the fear of making mistakes. If you have some friends who will play along you can even enlist them by telling them you are going to make mistakes with them. You can turn it into a game.
You could also try some Rational Emotive Therapy self-help and see if any of that appeals:
http://www.rebtnetwork.org/Anyway, I struggle with tough a Inner Critic. I've made headway and keep working on it. You are fortunate in that you are young and aware now, you don't have to spend a lot of painful years of it making your life miserable.
Edited 4 time(s). Last edit at 09/15/2011 10:55PM by robertb.