Posted by:
Nightingale
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Date: September 18, 2011 10:49PM
"One of the things this board is supposed to do is be a safe place where people CAN criticize because they may not be able to DO anything else."
Precisely correct.
People who think we should discuss the pros as well as the cons of Mormonism, have apologists chime in ad infinitum, allow active, believing members to tell us why Mormonism is great, watch what we say and how we say it for fear of offending the most sensitive soul's sensibilities, need to justify our every thought and action in the name of fair play and any and every other means of engaging in political correctness when it comes to discussing our own experiences, challenges, beliefs, thoughts and emotions pertaining to Mormonism, are seriously misunderstanding the purpose of RfM.
It is supposed to be about not having to justify an honest reaction, for once, but being able to just write as ourselves without second-guessing every word for fear of giving offence or being told off. It is supposed to be about talking to people who understand without you having to explain every single last picky detail of every thing, every time. It is supposed to be about having questions and asking them without being told off for climbing out of the box, or even just peeking over the edge of it. It is supposed to be about not having to qualify every single sentence we write because some things are taken as given (i.e., not _all_ members are all one way or another, of course, but it gets ponderous to have to qualify that, and similar thoughts, every time).
In short, as RJ says, freedom of speech and freedom of religion and other such concepts, and especially PC'ism, aren't enshrined here, nor should they be. It's not that kind of place. To say, for example, that due to the ideal of religious freedom we have to give equal time to discussing the so-called "good" of Mormonism, or worse, that to protect the idea of religious liberty we can't write anything "negative" about Mormonism, is radically wrong and misses the RfM purpose completely.
Calling for us to give equal time to the so-called good things in Mormonism discounts RfMers' personal experiences and observations of the Mormon Church that show the seamy underbelly. If some members, past or present, don't ever see the underbelly, that's their good luck, but they can't say it doesn't exist (although they may so conclude) as the experiences of so many current and past members exposes it regularly.
I agree with the sentiment that is expressed more often here now than I've seen before, that supporting an institution that promotes/allows undesirable things is the same as promoting them yourself; i.e., if your church denounces GLBTQ people and you support your church then you are also in the position of failing to support GLBTQ people and are actively (even if only by proxy) seeking their extinction or at least a curtailment of their human rights.
To acknowledge that your church actively seeks to hurt fellow humans and then to try and mitigate that fact by saying "but they do a lot of good" (i.e., soup kitchens, disaster aid) falls sadly flat. If they pick and choose who they are going to help, according to some standard of "worthiness", that is worse than never doing any "good" at all.
(Am I off topic yet?!)
Basically, just wanted to say yeah, what RJ said!
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/18/2011 10:52PM by Nightingale.