Posted by:
motherwhoknows
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Date: September 23, 2011 12:43AM
You have all made me feel better. Some of you have had similar experiences, and you seem to remain sane and happy, in spite of the Mormon rudeness.
I do like the idea of not allowing those rude people to decide where I am to go, and how I'm going to act. In my heart, I still would like to be friendly and kind. Yeah--if my enthusiastic friendliness makes them angry or suspicious--that is their problem. My friends (I do have some non-Mormon friends) seem to enjoy me.
I'm going to save all your answers, because I will need reminding. So much of my recovery seems to be on-going, and it is disheartening to backslide.
I'm going to put on my duck suit. I like that analogy, because it is a way of protecting yourself, yet still accepting that you have feelings. A suit is on the surface. Yeah, I want a sleeveless, mini-skirted duck suit!
Assertiveness seems to annoy Mormons, so I think I'll dust off my old assertiveness training. As Cl 2 wrote, trying to please others seems to be less effective than just turning away and going in your own direction. Maybe someone will follow. I'm happy for her success!
OMG! I am seriously going to have my own basketball hoop and peanut party! I'm not kidding. It would be hilarious! I mean, complete with the butcher paper taped onto the table, the folding chairs, which I will make my guests put away afterwards, the paper plates and the giant trash can, the jello salad and mystery casserole--on second thought, just the hoop and huts will suffice.
I do like the personal touch of taking the time to deliver a wedding gift to the bride or groom at their house, at the door. I will not go into their house, where I'm not welcome, but briefly and sincerely wish them good luck on the doorstep, then scurry back to my car, with the motor running, and be on my way. I will give no explanation or excuse about the reception, either. Hey--no standing in a long reception line, either!
Thanks, everyone!