Posted by:
deconverted2010
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Date: September 30, 2011 04:08PM
Merely two years ago, even less than two years ago I was a happy mormon, I found my strength and happiness mostly from the lds church and the lds scriptures, I loved my calling, well I still do, and I thought all was well. Almost all was well, I mean overall life was good, there were times I'd be sad or felt down but those days were rare, there were other times when I was tired and overwhelmed but kept going, and there were times when I dragged myself to church and days I hated dealing with the self-righteous, perfect Pharisees in the ward, but I managed. I’m not in the morridor or a highly lds community and many people my age are converts, I’m also in a very multi-cultural area which gives variety, you can go days without seeing mormons around if you want to. Anyway, my life was good but I also noticed that life was good for many people who were not members of the church, of any church or who even claimed to be agnostic or atheist, but I thought there were being blessed because they must be doing something well I didn’t know about.
Last year my world changed, I went through ups and downs while learning about the church. I went through all these states:
I believe with all my heart
I believe almost everything
Oh my, the introduction of the BoM changed, I don’t think I can believe
The church is still good even if it is all not true, it’s a good church and NOT a cult
Well, the church maybe is not as good as I thought, but it’s still OK
Oh my, maybe the church is not true and it’s even damaging
Ok, the church keeps its members in the dark and takes their money and it damages people
Is it a church? Is it a corporation? Is it a MLM scheme?
As you can imagine I had ups and downs but I think I’ve come to terms with all this and have found that I am actually happier now that I do not believe. Those down moments are even more rare. It is scary to think I’m not special but it is empowering to know that I must look out for myself, this makes me happier. I still attend church and I still hold my calling but those Pharisees do not get to me anymore, I smile at them and can actually handle them even better. I serve better and I care more. The relationships with my family members have improved. Here are some comments I’ve heard lately.
I like this new sister better, you are much more fun.
What do you speak so loud now? What happen to your soft voice? Ha ha I think I’ve lost it.
Are you using a new product on your face? It looks good
I’ve read posts from many of you saying how you have become happier and those suffering from depression have even stopped or lower your medications, but I never thought I could be happier. I was fine before I am better now. I don’t know how life will be tomorrow or even in five minutes but I have more internal peace and joy than when I was TBM. I find that at church there are a lot of sad, tired and overwhelmed people, not everyone of course but many. I even find all the jack mormons are the most amazing mormons there are. Was I happy before? Yes. Am I happier now? You bet.
Thanks to all of you for you who read, who post and the exmo community in general, I have learned more about Mormonism in the past 22 months than I did in my over 20 years of being a good mormon woman,
And now I beginning to believe that yes, you can be happier after leaving the church.
D