Posted by:
anon4drama
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Date: November 11, 2010 03:28PM
This past week, my recently turned 18 year old son, a very obedient pleasing closeted agnostic, dropped out of high school (senior) and ran away from his happy valley TBM mom. My ex called me and accused me of prompting it by conspiring with him to leave (completely false and ridiculous). The night before that, she had cut him from talking with me on the phone, and so I got her on to tell her what an f'd up parent she is to stop our conversations when he was trying to talk about his difficulties living in happy valley.
We've been to court a few times; I filed to get custody of him and his brother (16yo), without success because the courts back west don't change custody without considerable cause. This depressed my son and his brother, and they remained in happy valley against their often expressed wishes.
The day after he left, my son had hitched a ride up the i15 morridor and landed on the doorstep of my TBM family. My ex, who sheltered and controlled him to the point he couldn't take it any further. On the phone she at least admitted she would refrain from pressuring him to go back to finish high school with her. I added, perhaps it was time for her to let the younger brother live with me as he dearly wishes, and before he pulls a drastic maneuver.
She then proceeded to blame me for all the ills they both have had. It's a typical ploy, projecting her guilt as blame. But the problem I have is, my 16yo son needs his father badly. At least he stands up to her about the church, but I fear he will follow in his older brother's path and do something that could ruin his short term future.
It's so damned frustrating to deal with narcissistic tbms when all they can see in you is the devil.