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anagrammy
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Date: November 16, 2011 06:10PM
Yes, they are extraordinary young people. And we have learned that the very scintillating speed of their synapses is exactly the problem, when combined with certain other factors.
I have a schizophrenic son who is in his forties. So consider this a voice from your future. When my son was in his twenties, he tried to commit suicide 13 times, in a variety of ways. Somehow, I caught him or prevented it, sometimes just following hunches, like one Christmas a "last number" phone call revealed he called a gun shop.
Here is my message of hope for you: you will mourn the future he will never have, that future that you imagined for him and that he imagined for himself. That is appropriate. But there is a new future for him because, fortunately, he lives in a time when the medication for this disease is very refined. The salvaging of a life through antipsychotic medication is an every-day occurance these days. There is one more very important factor : family support.
If you can keep your son alive, even if in and out of institutions, like mine was, through his twenties, he will stabilize after 30 IF and only IF he has family support. Studies have been done which show this factor to be the independent variable on whether or not these patients stabilized as they age. I am a single parent and the only support for my son, but it was enough. He has a life which to any of us would be barren (no wife, no children, no career, few interests, few friends), but which he describes as happy. He can't handle much stimulation because of the internal voices, so he says he's fine with seeing family a couple of times a week and that's it.
My heart goes out to you, it is a long and difficult road, but I can also read the love in your post and with you standing by him, he will have a life he can enjoy, even though limited by his disability.
Feel free to email me anytime @ anagrammy@gmail.com. I can share with you what to say when your son says something delusional, etc, just practical living-with-it stuff.
Best
Anagrammy