Posted by:
motherwhoknows
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Date: November 17, 2011 02:05AM
I agree with Honestone. You need to protect your children, before they get in too deep. Children are not yet brainwashed, and they will have no trouble leaving, when you offer them a fun family outing, instead of boring church meetings.
My husband was patient, and got me out. He told me about the very first anti-Mormon book he read, and I got very angry at him, and accused him of letting Satan get hold of him--just like I was taught to respond. I was a complete Morgbot. He would drip little tidbits of information along the way, and I'd get mad, and then I would think about it.... I loved my husband, and never considered leaving him just because of church.
He became inactive, and I saw how badly he was treated in our ward, and how much his family pestered him--and me. They blamed ME for his leaving. When the Mormon people showed their true colors, I began to wonder, "Where's the love? Where's Christ?" I was excluded from the couple's social activities, and the more I made my appearances solo, husband-less, the worse I was treated.
If you become inactive, and stick by your principles, your wife should respect you. You can just start gradually, by telling her you're taking a break from church, and it is fine for her to go and take the kids. Don't help them get ready, don't pay tithing, and don't support their fake activities or programs (like JS birthday, primary programs, etc. But, don't argue or give your wife a hard time. Please don't drink or smoke, because those are NOT THE ISSUES. The Mormon uses these petty little arguments to distract from the bigger issues, such as freedom of religion, love, giving children a choice, the real God in the real heaven.
Give your wife and children lots of love and attention--they won't get that in the cult. Expand your life with other interests, do things with non-Mormon friends, develop hobbies or sports together, etc. Become more family and marriage oriented (and less church-oriented). She will be happy.
More marriages make it than not. Have you ever asked your wife how she feels about things? Sometimes, couples are surprised that they are both thinking the same thing! For example, about how weird the temple is, how they don't like the underwear, how they'd like to go to the beach on Sunday, etc.
My heart BREAKS for people who lose their spouse for such a stupid reason. Religion should not be an issue in a marriage. I guess if a spouse leaves because of religion, there was never real love there in the first place, if that makes anyone feel better.... Sigh.....
Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 11/17/2011 02:13AM by motherwhoknows.