But it's a cute and descriptive term. It's a term that indicates, "Yeah, I'm Mormon, and I even believe some of he stuff. But ain't no one telling me I have to attend the ward led by my prick bishop. I'm going to the one the meets at 1pm where my buddies are."
we simply can not describe ourselves without using some sort of labels. Labels are not only useful they are mandatory for us to communicate. To try to reject labels by labeling ourselves as just "I" or "me" doesn't work because saying I am "just me" is a label in an of itself.
true. yes, looking at it from that perspective *you* is also another label.
what i meant was that there's no need to add more custom labels or mental projections that may hinder your true potential. meaning, do not personify or create an identity from something as hurtful as mormonism.
"i am an ex-mormon" (guilty as charged; i used that term before to label myself) sort of makes me remember my foolish past and in a way i was not letting go of it.
now a days i personally don't find the need to wear the 'mormon' scarlet letter anymore. i learned from my mistakes and any attempt to try to wear it again does not really let me look at the potential to reach something more noble and beautiful.
any reminders of mormonism are sort of painful. really. divorce, family splitting, loss of friends...
I know the feeling--I'll sometimes refer to myself as "former mormon" or "fake mormon," but at the same time, I just want to forget I was ever part of this at all. Kinda hard when I have a kid with a mormon-y name, though.
The Church has been such a big part of my life it is hard for me to describe myself correctly without using the term Mormon somehow. Atheist Mormon? Disillusioned Mormon? Unbelieving Mormon?
The description I like the best though when asked if I am a Mormon is to say; I am a "Recovering Mormon" I think that communicates it the best. I am mostly over it, but it will continue to affect me for the rest of my life. I will always be trying to overcome some of the effects of being a TBM for nearly 50 years.
I sometimes think I am still a mormon, or a disillusioned mormon, maybe a deconverted mormon, I even wonder if I am a spy mormon or a hypocritical mormon since I still attend. One day I'll be an UNmormon.