My mood has been fairly decent, so that is a plus. Cheryl's

thread about bullies ignited some memories for me, although none

are associated so much with Mormon bullies (although there have

been a few in my life). Today marks the 8th anniversary of my

father's passing. He was the 2nd of 5 deaths for me in a six

week period. I had just finished a few hours prior to his

death, my uncle's funeral. I was out of town with my half

sister, when I was among my mother's sisters and they

started talking trash about my dad within an hour of finding out

he had died. My parents were still married (though not

happily). I adored my aunts for the most part, but they

constantly reinforced to my mother that she was living in sin

for marrying my father. Mom was divorced to first husband and

could not afford an annulment so she could marry my dad in the

Catholic church, and my dad was a former preacher in the Baptist

faith. One of these aunts totally disowned me the last year of

her life...she had not known that I left the church, but was

upset about a letter I wrote (still TBM at time), but shared

With everyone else what she was upset about, but I was not

Privileged to know. 1 lightbulb--I come from some pretty

Dysfunctional people. 2 lightbulb--I have a living narcissist

In my immediate family and I have always overlooked it. I think

Of all the times I let this individual cut, color, or perm

(80's) my hair and how so many mistakes were made with me and

not others. One time the highlights made me look like a loaf

Of marble rye! Recently, my rock star colorist, took me blonder

and everyone loves it but this individual. Whatever happens,

This person says the opposite. This is so scary to me that

people can get pleasure from this type of sabotage!


Thanks for letting me talk...my dad even though we had different

beliefs, he never withdrew his love.