Posted by:
Cheryl
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Date: December 13, 2011 12:11PM
We hear that there are always two sides to every issue. Sometimes that's true but often there are as many legitimate points of view as there are viewers.
Examples:
Exmos in their homes have a right to treat univited missionaries any way that suits their own needs. Possibilities include feeding them, ignoring them, cursing them, or hosing them if they mock and refuse to leave the porch.
Exmos have free choice and many legitimate reasons for deciding if or when they'll resign. They don't have to be efficient, polite, assertive or prompt if they're stiving for recovery in their own time and space.
Everyone gets to decide how or when to tell friends and relatives they are leaving the morg. Many differing ways work for different exmos.
I often say that parents get to decide church participation for their children. They often make mistakes, but that's life. No one has a right to interfere as long as their decisions are within legal bounds.
The same with Santa. Parents will hopefully look at their child's needs and do what they think is best. Some parents have Santa baggage and they don't have to spend time or money to get over it. They get to factor in their own feelings as well as their children's wants and needs, then come up with a plan they think best suits everyone's needs.
Do I like Santa? Yes, I do. I've seen how he's enriched the lives of 100s of children, most but not all in disadvantaged situations.
Does that mean all parents must play along with this myth for all children? Certainly not.
I would only hope that parents would find ways to encourage children to express natural needs and inclinations to enjoy fatasy and if they're inclined to enjoy interaction with imaginary friends. This is healthy and normal for most young children and they gradually give it up as they mature.
Traditions, inside jokes, mutual play and family interaction creates good memories and wholesome bonds. Santa is one common way of achieving this good result for many, but not the only way.
I planned to stay out of the Santa controvery this year. But one parent posted asking how to tell a believing six year old that there is no Santa and how to take back a promise to visit Santa in mall. That bothered me because the Santa myth seemed to be a happy experience for this child and parent. There's no need to demand he and his daughter must abruptly give it up because some strangers on the internet claim they know best.
The morg dishes out absolutes but exmos can finally enjoy gradations and diversity in their lives.
Arguing opposite sides of an argument sometimes misses the idea of choice and the important middle ground.