I've based much of this post on a comment I saw a stand-up comedienne deliver once. So if any of this seems familiar, that's why.

There are very few "cool kids" in the world. Most of us are dorks. Yet, we dorks spend most of our lives trying to SEEM like we're cool kids.

That's where the morg fits in. It's a giant club of dorks, that tries to convince its members that they are actually cool. The results are frequently hilarious, and sometimes downright tragic.

True peace of mind and happiness come from embracing our inner dorkitude. I am dork; hear me roar!

or nerdy, or geeky. Certainly better than acting like a tool or a d-bag who's "cool."

about what others think of you.

But when you find those who truly care about you (instead of "assigned firends"), they embrace that side of you which is dorky, nerdy, geeky.

helamonster Wrote:
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> But when you find those who truly care about you
> (instead of "assigned firends"), they embrace that
> side of you which is dorky, nerdy, geeky.

I've embraced my introverted nature... When I was a low level drone I was always a secretary of some nature, and was always treated like there was something wrong with me because I wasn't as outgoing and chatty as the other men.

Turns out that nothing is actually wrong with me, they were just all terrible conversationalists.

"Turns out that nothing is actually wrong with me, they were just all terrible conversationalists."

There you have it in a nutshell!

Brilliant observation, strivingforbalance!

Timothy

I love heavy metal and comic books.

Mormonism has hated my kind since before we began to roam the earth.

It just took me 25 years to say to the church, "Wait a minute, I know you hate me and you want me to hate me. But I don't hate me....I HATE YOU!"

And my heart has never been so full of love since.

I think the biggest thing that has helped me in all aspects of life has been my ability to laugh at myself, and damn near everything else.

The Church is a joke, church is a joke, life is a joke. Have fun with it.

How do you define "dorkiness?" I grew up as a semi-introvert (by Mormon standards, that is) in a university neighborhood, in a family of PhD's. I NEVER thought doctors, economists, researchers, psychologists, geologists, astronomers, and the like were "dorky." I could listen to their ramblings, lectures, slide-shows, silly science puns all night--and often did!

I love strivingforbalance's comment! So true! Who can make scintillating conversations out of subjects like the BOM, church callings, General Conference talks, boring meeting, petty ward gossip. And they call us introverts, because reading a book is more interesting than to listening to these dorks.

Helamonster, just going by your posts, I would never in a million years classify you as a "dork."

Learning to like yourself for who you are is a big part of recovery. Only accepting real friends who like you for who you are is another.

The church wants women to have certain talents that I tried for years to have and I never quite developed them...and it's okay!!

Modern day mormonism is all about fitting in. At the individual level that means dressing liker other members do, living like other members do, thinking like other members do. At the church level it means mainstream acceptance as just another Christian denomination full of normal people (which just happens to be the only true and living church on the face of the earth).

I was a dork as a mormon, a loner, never really part of the church club, never a good fit for the mormon culture. As an exmormon I still feel like an outsider since I am still religious and exmormon boards like this one are generally full of atheists. But I also do not feel comfortable with the bible thumping crowd. I guess I'll just continue to go my own way as I've always done.

...you get to be like Duckie Dale in "Pretty in Pink" -- King of the Nerds. Such an aspiration.

I think understanding and accepting ourselves is part of maturing. The people who are still trying to be someone else, still seeking approval, probably haven't matured.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/06/2012 09:51AM by Stray Mutt.