Posted by:
SusieQ#1
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Date: February 05, 2012 07:19PM
Whatever I was taught was accepted without much concern. I came from a strong Christian Protestant background, lots of church activity so I thought I was just changing churches with some variations on the beliefs. If the LDS Church said such and such was their doctrine, I just accepted it.
If I was going to be part of a church, I was going to do it all the way and be dedicated. (Personality played a big part!_)
I couldn't get into the BOM, and just assumed it was verifiable. I had grown up with the idea of supernatural, visionary claims so Joseph Smith Jr being a prophet was a lot to accept, as there was no way I could claim he was a prophet, but eventually, I just went along to get along. I was outnumbered. I had carefully assimilated into the heritage and culture by moving to UT and living on BYU campus married housing as a young married convert. I was exposed to Mormonism 24/7.
The garments were not that well accepted, and I never wore them at night, but it was just part of the package and everyone was doing it... so to speak.
The only thing that really got to me emotionally was the music, probably because I was a musician long before I converted. And that had it's roots in my home life also as we all sang as a family and some played the piano.
I found a huge conflict between what I considered "Christian" behavior and attitudes and the lack of any of that in the LDS Church. Too many fanatical nuts trying to persuade me! (And by that I mean Bruce Longo! )
Eventually, the contradictions just became overwhelming. The temple made no sense at all, the dress-ups were too weird, the covenants were too strange, the constant demands on time and money, the lack of any understanding of individual needs, the lack of acceptance of women as equals, (BIGGIE!!), the BIC polygamous heritage that I could never get a handle on and on and on. I often said I could never learn to think like a born in the bed Mormon! I had a whole life before that didn't jive with much of any of it. Members just "knew" stuff that left me without a clue.
I stayed, when nothing made sense, mainly because of my involvement with conducting music. Much of the music went back to my roots in my Christian home, and it had a strong emotional pull.
Finally, verifying in the original church history in 1998, that Joseph Smith Jr didn't have any golden plates from any angel,didn't translate anything, finally hit me like a ton of bricks and I found it quite humorous! The power of the "spiritual eye" witness was still alive and well, and given the same credibility as physical evidence. (Nothing new there, very common in religious settings.). It all seemed so simple: if those ancient records really existed they would be the find of the century (falling after the Rosetta Stone) and would be on display in the Smithsonian, for instance. But. No. Nothing. Zip. Zero.
Then the translations struck me humorous also. What a wild and crazy imagination Joseph Smith Jr had (plus, some help from his cronies!)! What we have is stories about imaginary people, places and things, plagiarized from other works of the times,plus an overlay of the ideas of the times that resulted in a book that is totally without an ounce of credibility! Really quite a feat! However, believers go to their grave sure it is factual. Amazing.
I don't recall that I ever could say I "knew" the church was true, in fact, I told a stake president, clearly that nobody "knows" - it's a belief. He agreed!
I wonder how I lasted as long as I did. So did my friends! :-)
To be clear: I have no regrets. I am grateful for all of my experiences: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly. I have a wonderful family, nearly a 50 year marriage because of Mormonism. I never forget that. I have wonderful, good family members and friends that are Mormons. I wouldn't trade any of it for anything.
All of my experiences helped created who I am today! I've learned the power of making peace with all of my life, taking my power back and owning it, to forgive everyone everything, ditch the negative, and appreciate all of it. It's a continuing, ongoing process that brings the greatest joy and freedom, no words to explain it, in fact.