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Posted by: Another Anon ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 04:36PM

I'm approaching 50 years old. In all honesty my libido feels pretty close to the same as when I was 19 year old horndog missionary.

For men older than myself have you found that your libido has ebbed as you've gotten older?

If so, at what age did you begin to notice a difference?

I guess what I'm really trying to ask since I don't feel comfortable asking anyone familially close to me, as men do we have it until we die or is there a time when that thing between our legs just finally becomes un-interested in what it was partially designed for?

I've often wondered about Hugh Heffner and his sex-capades. Is he really still able to frolic and keep up (pun intended) with those nubile young playmates of his or do they just patronize him for a place to live and the exposure (pun intended) he is able to give them in somehow furthering their career aspirations?

Any feedback for this "young-un" would be greatly appreciated.

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Posted by: Truth Without Fear ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 05:01PM

I'm 52 and have completely lost interest in sex.




BWAHAHAHAHA

If anything I'm randier than ever. Good thing I have a smoking hot uninhibited wife! :-)

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Posted by: misfit ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 05:30PM

I'm 46. Still bangin DW a couple times a week. More than that if she's in heat.

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Posted by: Heresy ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 05:33PM

The interest waned along with the ability, thank the godess. I mean, it would be terrible to want to and not be able to.

He was going strong at 60 when this hit him.

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Posted by: wittyname ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 05:35PM

I am not a mature man, or a man at all, so this might be an unwelcome comment. However, since you mentioned curiosity about hugh hefner and his sexcapades, you can find out more than you probably want to know by reading Hefnerland by Jill Ann something-or-other. I don't think it was ever published, but you can download it online. It details his orgies (allegedly fueled by viagra) quite a read (mostly because the author is absolutely bananas).

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Posted by: anon I guess ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 06:17PM

Which is Zero!
I still desire to be with her and make love but it is all for not. Yes I still have the drive and desire.
My wife does not enjoy intimacy, hates her body, hates sex, the church has taken and made sex a dirty thing . It's always CHURCH-CHURCH-CHURCH.
Right after we were married she got the "miracle of forgiveness" book and it was all downhill from there. She is a good wife and mother, she let the church ruin our love life and her outlook on life.
Oh and btw, not sure I'd want to make love to my wife now with pictures of Joe Smitty and Jesus on my master bedroom walls staring at my ass.
For a religion that was basically founded on sex by the profits I sure missed out in my life.

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Posted by: another anony ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 07:40PM

DW has always had a low sex drive, negative view of her body, naive view of sex, etc. The church and her immature family did most of the damage IMHO. She was virgin when we got married, I wasn't. It was obvious from the first night that I was in for a challenge.I went months and months at a time without sex for most of our marriage. But we did it enough to have some kids. She just never felt comfortable with it. It was hell for me. I could have had a number of affairs over the years but didn't because I didn't want to ruin our family. Everything else in our marriage was excellent, but sex...on a scale of 1-10 it was Zero.

When she hit menopause it was like a volcano erupting. Good sex for about 2-3 years. It was the first time she actually had an interest in it and initiated it on occasion. Then it was all over, just like that. I now go months at a time (actually I think it was almost a year ago) without sex. I hate to beg. So I just quit asking.

I'm in my 50s. Still have a pretty good sex drive but now I can live without it a lot easier than when I was in my 30s. That is the difference IMO. I don't think the interest will ever totally go away for me.

She still wears those gawd awful garments to cover her nakedness. Gag me. I think she does it because she still has such a negative view of her own body.

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Posted by: loveskids ( )
Date: September 26, 2010 01:51AM

What you said is very interesting to me. I was BIC and my dad was a psycologist with a ton of books about sex. And he was very rigid and my (step) mom didn't have a clue what to say to me about anything sexual.Even though I am 5'8' and weigh 130 I have a horrible imagine of my body. You are right about the garments. I had no problem being seen by husband,children etc, when I was covered with all that material. Now that I wear Victoria's Secret I can hardly look at myself in the mirror and dress in the closet. Sex??? What is that? Always hated it and so afraid dh might do something inapropriate. Which he tried on occasion but I was a good mormon wife and told his no. I wonder how much of my weirdness about my body and sex can be traced back to 57 years as a mormon.

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Posted by: get her done ( )
Date: September 26, 2010 09:27AM

You are so funny.

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Posted by: get her done ( )
Date: September 26, 2010 09:29AM

Age 63 and get her done twice a day.

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Posted by: Robert ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 08:01PM

I have been married 53 years.
age 77 and my sex drive has never gone away, sex went about 10 years ago. Masturbation has always been apart of my life
and without it now, I think I would go crazy.

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Posted by: foundoubt ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 08:43PM

OK, I turned 65 last month. I noticed that when I was 50-60 I started doing it less. I went from about twice a day in my 30's to about twice a week now. DW had a complete historectomy several years ago, and she can take it or leave it. When I want it, I want it, and so it works well for us. She is my third, I am her fourth. I'm not sure if it will fall off once the interest is gone, but the interest is falling off gradually. No pun intended.

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Posted by: Jenny ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 10:20PM

According to him, Viagra can definitely help certain men who are impotent to achieve erection. With the others who are taking it "recreationally", after about age 27-30 it will help with the recovery time between sexual episodes. Before ages 27-30, it doesn't help at all unless those men have some sort of medical sexual disfunction to begin with because 1) they can always achieve erection and 2) they have very little down-time between episodes.

So, according my male sexual disfuction specialist, if a man is not medically impotent, then the only decrease in sexual function will be the recovery time.

However, if there are circulation problems, there will be sexual problems. To quote him, "What ails the circulation ails the penis." High blood pressure is bad. Overweight is bad and also reduces the size of the erection by simply covering up the length. Obesity is worse. These things affect a man's sex life.

Sorry to intrude on the mature men's thread, but this doctor is definitely mature, definitely a man, and has dealt with these issues for decades. I loved cornering him and asking him to tell me about this stuff. Strange, but true.

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Posted by: sparta ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 10:20PM

Now I know I'm not who this was meant for (I'm female), but just to add:-

My DH is 44, and his sex drive started to slow down about 5 years ago, now it's virtually non existent.

He admits himself that he's just not interested in sex much now and finds it an effort to keep it going.

The longest we've been without having sex has been 18 months, and currently it's been 3 months.

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Posted by: Footlong ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 10:54PM

She is my 2nd. My first mormon wife only would have sex to procreate. I would go months without it, and it was extremely difficult in my late 20 and early 30's. Of course I didn't "M" because I knew from Spencer W. that I would go to the telestial kingdom. Anyway, we divorced a few years ago, and I remarried. We've had sex as much as 5 times in one day and she counted 2,000 times the first year we were together. I was in the celestial kingdom of sex there for awhile, and it more than made up for the 20 looonngggg years I was with Atilla the nun. She wants it at least 4 times per week. I get worn out, and I know I dissappoint her at times. Sometimes she gets the ball rolling when I'm snoring away like an ol' grizzly bear..and trust me guys, she is the is the BJ goddess of love. I leave to work everyday with a big o' smile on my face. My drive has decreased maybe 25 percent when I hit 45, but hey the 75% is still celestial kingdome quality. I know, TMI, but you know what I'm just so happy. Okay, I may be exaggerating with the moniker, but I thought it was catchy. Well gotta go...duty calls.

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Posted by: Mo larkey ( )
Date: September 25, 2010 11:13PM

I hate you.........!

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Posted by: Sparky ( )
Date: September 26, 2010 12:23AM

It depends.

Some of the best sex I ever had was with my ex when we were leaving the church.

Then...the best sex I ever had was with the ex...when we were going through the process of splitting up.

Then...some of the best sex I ever had was with girlfriends after the ex (approaching 50).

Then...the best sex was with the ex...after we had split up and both had significant others (yeah...we're sluts).

Now...truly the best sex I HAVE EVER had is with my current girl.

I think a lot of it has to do with timing and where you are in your life.

Or maybe...I just like sex and think that it is all good.

Steve



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/26/2010 12:24AM by Sparky.

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Posted by: get her done ( )
Date: September 26, 2010 11:38AM

The longest I have ever been without sex was 10 years............... then I turned 11 and been without daily since. I need to confeses to the Bishop how much I enjoy it then, and now.

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Posted by: unworthy ( )
Date: September 26, 2010 11:55AM

Now at 70 ,,I still have some sex drive and desire. Have used viagra and lavetra. Both work OK. However I found the a lot of my sexual ability depends on the attraction and relationship of the lady I am with. Have to admit that my sex drive has slowed way down,,but have had more than my share of great sex with fine ladies. Been a good run.

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Posted by: bearlaker ( )
Date: September 26, 2010 11:58AM

I'm 56, horny as ever, DW isn't any longer. Before she got "active in the church" things were pretty good in the bedroom.

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