Posted by:
doubleb
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Date: March 11, 2012 04:22PM
I spent six hours Friday with my 47 year-old BYU grad co-worker. We spent 3 of those hours talking about his mission, 1 hour about his BYU experience, 1 hour about how he met his wife, and the very little amount of time leftover on our work.
Unbelievably, this guy is 47 and his mission and engagement still command the majority of his attention. The guy is so simple-minded, and talks like he's 17 years old. Is it a requirement imposed on BYU grads by the church that they continue to talk about their missions and engagements ad nauseum? Is it an alumni association requirement? What gives?
The textbook question/response sequence of the day:
Him: So, how'd you and your wife meet?
Me: Oh, in grad school, met on a hiking trip, dated a year and a half, got married.
Awkward, anticipatory silence. He sat waiting to pounce like a labrador chasing a tennis ball. I caved.
Me: So, how'd you and YOUR wife meet?
Him: Met at a BYU home evening meeting. My boss let me out of work early -- he's LDS too, you know, and knows the importance of family home evening -- and I met her there. We were engaged within 3 weeks, married in 5. 23 years later and we're still in love. (Of course, this is a synopsis of his 60 minute diatribe.)
I almost threw up my club sandwich and Coke. Predictable, but not anticipated.
I thought to myself, "How can a person fall in love and marry in 5 weeks unless they're only enamored with the IDEA of marriage?" This guy doesn't love his wife, he's comforted by having completed the church requirements on the timeline expected by his leaders and superiors. He continues mindlessly attending meetings, talking about mission/BYU/engagement, and going about his day-to-day without true purpose or fulfillment.
Seems like mission accomplished (no pun intended) on the mind control aspects of this man's life. He's in for life. Why is reality so obvious to some but so foreign to others? Sorry for the rant, but I was annoyed and disappointed...