Posted by:
runtu
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Date: April 02, 2012 04:35PM
I've felt for a long time that those of us who served missions were pressured, either explicitly or implicitly, to speak only of positive experiences we had on our missions. It was only OK to speak of the negative if it led to something "faith promoting." We couldn't talk about the pressure for numbers, the boredom, the depression, and the bad physical and emotional experiences.
My mission president told us never to say anything negative about our mission, so most of us just remained silent. And anyone who did speak candidly was met with hostility. A friend of mine told me that he gave a presentation to the young men in his ward about his mission, and he felt he should explain to them some of the realities of mission life so that they would be better prepared to serve. After the meeting, his bishop took him in his office and berated him, saying that we should be encouraging young men to serve, that he needed to get them excited about a mission.
But some believing Mormons have told me that I'm just imagining this, that there is no such pressure to provide only the positive. So, am I crazy, or not? I don't think so. If you served a mission, did you experience this pressure to talk about your mission only in positive terms? If so, how did that affect you?