Posted by:
notamo
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Date: April 19, 2012 02:18AM
My husband's previous wife is a fanatical TBM who also is violent and has a serious personality disorder. They were married for only 3 months before she left after physically abusing him. She was pregnant too and they had a son (after they divorced). Fast forward a few yrs later, after MANY battles on visitation, her blocking them, him taking her to court to enforce it, the child is now 5. She lost custody in late 2010 to us when she made allegations that my husband, our son and I had sexually abused the child everytime he visited us. All allegations were unfounded and we were investigated by 5 different law enforcement agencies. She made all the allegations up to try to keep him from visiting us. During the investigations, the boy was examined many times (more than 15 times) by LE and medical personnel - each and every one of them said the boy wasn't abused. Prior to the final custody trial, we all went thru a custody evaluation (to the tune of over $40k, $11k of which was paid for by her Ward) where it was found thru psychological tests that she suffers from paranoia, has a personality disorder so bad that she'll affect the son should she raise him and the evaluator said she should NOT raise him, that my husband, the boy's father, should. The child also had his own court appointed lawyer who also said the boy should be raised by the father and specifically NOT the mother. Two other court appointed experts said the same thing. During the trial, she lied on the stand many times and was called on those lies. Her answer? "I don't remember saying what you said I lied about." Many other things have happened over the years that shows she will not facilitate a good relationship between the boy and his father - this is one of the factors that the UT courts look at for deciding custody. So, after a few days in court, hearing her lies, seeing how blatantly evident it is that she is not the right parent to raise the child, the Judge decides that it's in the best interest of the child to go back to the mom. Oh, did I mention that while on the stand, the mom said, no less than 5 times that she was a faithful member of the LDS Church?? The only non LDS in that courtroom were my husband, me and the custody evaluator. It just makes us sick that with all the evidence and the recommendations of the 4 experts, that the judge can just arbitrarily say that they are all wrong and the mom is the best person to raise the child. Even our appeals lawyers say that it was mormon bias and they are all LDS too. Just venting - thanks for listening. (I'm a never-mo. Found this website so I could figure out how to un-indoctrinate the boy from the Cult and their brainwashing).