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Date: April 21, 2012 05:20PM
So angry at my TBM mother right now! I have been out for years (since college) and have been so much happier without TSCC. I have been lurking here for a while, posted once but can't remember the screen name I used. My part member family is very liberal and seemed to be fine with my wanting nothing to do with church (after my mom initially freaked out).
Anyway, I am happily married to a nevermo and had our first baby 2 weeks ago. I have had zero contact with anyone from church for years (besides family friends at occasional social events, where no one has ever bothered me about anything, maybe because my life is going great, and i look so much happier without it don't know what to say!). My mom was here visiting for the baby being born, and went to church while we were still in the hospital. I thought since it was Easter she would go with my TBM sister who lives across town, but apparently she went to the ward nearby. Didn't think I would have to tell her to not give my info out, but apparently I was wrong! Just got a call from the RS president telling me my mom gave them my info, and that she wanted to come visit!! Seriously! I have never met this woman and I have an infant! Why would I want a stranger here! I told her I wasn't mormon (because I could care less that they think that an 8 yr old can make a life binding decision, and I remember I freaked the bishop out in my interview at 8 when I told him the reason I wanted to get baptized was because that is what everyone else does though didn't say that). She then asked me if I wanted visiting teachers, she kept mentioning that if I changed my mind I would always be welcome, etc. Basically not taking no or my annoyance at being bothered by a total stranger.
So angry that my mom can't respect that I have absolutely no interest in religion, especially hers which caused me a lot of mental torment until I realized that god wouldn't want me to be that unhappy and wouldn't punish me for not torturing myself at church every week. Prop 8 came later and cemented my decision that no true church would discriminate like that. Found this site recently by a happy accident and found out about all the other problems! I will probably have to resign now, only reason I haven't is because I felt no need to spend any more effort on TSCC ever again!
Thanks for letting me vent everyone, hopefully they will leave me alone since I told her no contact please! (but not holding my breath that they will stick to that)