Posted by:
CA girl
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Date: December 04, 2010 09:11AM
Seriously flawed thinking from some of the TBMs in my life. I was saying how I thought it was inappropriate that a middle aged banker/lawyer/businessman with no training in religion or counselling could take my teenage son or pre-teen daughter behind closed doors and ask deeply personal, sometimes sexual, questions of them. The response I got back "Well, it wouldn't bother you if you didn't think your kids were doing something wrong. They shouldn't be upset about answering the bishop's questions unless they have something to hide." The implication of this is, that if I object to letting the bishop interview my children, it's because I know they are breaking the commandments and the only reason it's upsetting is because they got caught. Innocent people have nothing to fear from any question that the bishop poses.
I've resorted to taking another angle on this and saying, "I'm surprised the church allows this, with all the times the Boy Scouts have been sued, and the Catholic priest scandal, and the way they are so careful about two-deep leadership in Primary. You'd think they'd do something to protect their bishops from false accusations too." That messes with their minds a little. But it's totally annoying - the idea that if I resent being interrogated it's because I've got something to hide, not that the bishop and the questions are way out of line.