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forestpal
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Date: May 04, 2012 05:08PM
Good thoughts, people! Mia's poem is stirring, and at the same time, it made my blood run cold.
A few hours ago, I watched "A Nun's Story" with Audrey Hepburn--which I highly recommend! My mother gave me that book to read, when I was a teen-ager. My TBM parents are dead, but, in retrospect, I think that they knew we were all in a cult. My RS Pres. mother was very vocal in her complaints when the priesthood took over the RS, confiscated all the money they had raised and forbade the Christmas Bazaar, the bake sales, and all the other traditional fund-raisers. When the Blacks were finally granted the priesthood, my mother cried, and said, "It is a CULT. It is a CULT." My father never wore garments, and he drank tea in foreign countries where this was the tradition, in order to be polite.
I do think education and exposure is key, rather than "intelligence" alone. It is easier to leave the cult, when you live outside the Morridor.
I left twice. Both times, I left because I could clearly see that the cult was ruining my life and our family. I agree that clarity of thought and courage are needed.
I agree about self-esteem. 1. The nun in "Nun's Story" became a valuable person (a nurse who saved lives), who had something to offer. I had to go to therapy and understand my PTSD, and learn that I had WORTH as the sole support of my children. 2. The nun realized that the church was keeping her from doing her good work and fulfilling her destiny. Her Catholic church wanted her to be cloistered in a monastery to pray and meditate, instead of go out and practice nursing. My Mormon church wanted me to be a slave to its rules and callings, instead of go forth in my career and raise my children full time, out in the real world.
The charity work I do now is far more important, and I'm finally building self-esteem. I do not deserve--I'm too valuable--to be abused.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 05/04/2012 05:09PM by forestpal.