Posted by:
VultureTamernotloggedin
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Date: June 22, 2012 01:07AM
Oh Anagrammy.......you made me cry......I hear you loud and clear.
I am so afraid. So very, very afraid. I feel like I have "lost" my children to an extent already, to their father, who is so high and mighty.....reads scripture, and says prayers, and administers blessings, and bears testimony ad nauseum. I am afraid if I tell them I'm ex'd that they will think less of me, and worst of all, wonder WHY. And I don't know that I can ever tell them that.
Before I read yours and others' replies about telling them the truth, I had a conversation with my husband tonight over dinner about this. He said the same thing. Truth! That they need to hear it, and he doesn't think its good to keep up at this "thing".
I believe this got started when I was hell bent on going to church in spite of what people thought of me, and showing them all they could not get the best of me, and I wowuld come back and be baptized, and they would see that I'm not BAD, even though I did a BAD THING. That the bad thing does not define me! That I made a mistake, but its not who I *am*.
I tried and tried, but the social consequences proved too great. And I my search for common experiences led me here. And even though I'm one who was ex'd because of sin, the shunning by former friends and family looks and hurts the same way.
Over the past three years, some people who were my friends previously have come around. There have been a few who stood by me, but it has been a very difficult process. I now know that things will *never* be the same for me in that ward.
I thought at the time, too, that the best thing for my kids was to show consistentcy, and be at church for their every special moment, etc. I'm still good with that for however long they need me to support them.
My son has borne testimony and had the entire ward in tears, and had people send him email and notecards abt his testimony. And every time he gets up, he cries, and looks at his dad, for approval, and cries some more.
The pressure from his dad is so severe, that I'm truly afraid my son will also shun me if he knows the truth. And now that I have typed that out, I am almost laughing at what a ridiculous statement that is. He's going to shun me when he DOES find out the truth, and like someone else mentioned......maybe he already KNOWS the truth.
Alright, anyone want to help me prepare to tell my son? And what about my daughter? : /