Posted by:
Cheryl
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Date: December 14, 2010 07:50AM
Threads on turning down missionaries always bring up the idea that "investigators" need to fret over what mishies think. Or that nonmos and exmos are required to be mishie caregivers. No, we all like to be polite and to avoid unnecessary confrontation, but we're in no way responsible for the thoughts and decisions TBMs make.
First off, we can only guess what someone else is thinking. More important, we're not in charge of their thoughts. They are.
There's nothing wrong with trying to help TBMs see the truth. But it's always up to the individual if they want to try to comfront or deconvert TBMs, including missionaries.
We don't have to invite mishies into our homes for bathroom or drinks. We don't have to let them down easy. We do not have to plant seeds. It's fine if we want to do those things, but it isn't any kind of moral requirement.
I think the first priority for recovering exmos is to learn to act authentically. Anyone who feels that planting seeds will help their recovery needs to do that. Exmos or "investigators" who want to cut off morg contact have every right to do that in any way that works for them, without wondering too much about what TBMs are thinking.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 12/14/2010 08:52AM by Cheryl.