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atheist&happy:-)
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Date: July 14, 2012 06:20AM
> Anyone who can never say no and back it up is
> doomed to being demeaned, defrauded, raped or
> assaulted if they live long enough.
Apparently you do not understand the nature of assault or rape. "No" means nothing to these people.
This sounds a lot like SWK's advising women that it is better to die fighting than be raped. Are you saying victims are to be blamed for not being able to "back it up", because if they don't it is inevitable they will be raped or assaulted or demeaned or defrauded? Your statement makes it sound like there is an easy solution to prevent these things. There is always blame when people think the solution is obvious, and easy, and the stupid ones miss it, and the smart, competent ones point it out. It's not that black, and white.
It's easy to think that would never happen to you, because you think you have been tough before, and that you would know just what to do. That's not the nature of rape, and assault - it's not what you think it is, and when you have not been in a life or death situation, you do not know what to do. It's demeaning to blame victims who did the best they could when they felt their lives were threatened.
As for people who cannot deal with "confrontation" - rape, and assault do not equate with hosing missionaries. Violence with the threat of death is not the same as being assertive to rude cult members.
Thanks to my observant nature, and hypervigilance, I am fairly good at reading people's expressions, body language, tone of voice, etc. to know what their intent is. I can usually tell when a person's words do not match their true feelings, but no one is perfect. I have been fooled by sociopaths. At first this was, because of a culture that taught me to be trusting of religion, and people in general, and I learned traumatic lessons there. Still, after that, I observed a few where I knew something was VERY wrong with them, but you should know the best ones are one step ahead of you if not a mile ahead.
So you can blame the victim, and think you have all the tools to do battle with a sociopath, but you just haven't met one or a really good one that wanted to screw up your life. You would not even know what happened until it was too late.
Edited 5 time(s). Last edit at 07/14/2012 06:30AM by atheist&happy:-).