Posted by:
Ihidmyself
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Date: July 15, 2012 11:10AM
My mom is an incredibly kind, sweet person who takes genuine pleasure in serving other people. She remembers everyone, what they are doing in their lives, and never has anything bad to say about anyone. She is the most accepting and loving person I have ever known. I know that sounds a little too good to be true but that's the way she is. Or at least that's been my impression of her my whole life. But...
When Prop 8 came around my mom went door to door soliciting signatures. My first thought was "that's odd. That doesn't sound like mom." Then I figured the bishop must have asked her to do it, and my mom is nothing if not obedient.
Then I got a screwball email from her about some supposed NASA guy who was going over some data about regarding the earth's rotation over the past 10,00 years and "found" 24 hours and 20 minutes were missing. It's an old urban legend that's been debunked numerous times so I sent the link to her and cc'd everyone else she had included on the email. She was offended and angry, not because I had cc'd everyone else, but because I had pointed out the story was wrong.
A year or two later she sends me an email that Obama was refusing to sign Eagle Scout certificates (another demonstrably false claim).
http://www.snopes.com/politics/obama/eaglescouts.aspAgain, no effort to investigate, but what was really odd was that the whole claim had been forwarded by some born-again woman who then went on to completely trash Obama and call him an "evil Muslim trying to destroy America". I thought she couldn't possibly have read this thing all the way through (I mean, language like this is so foreign to how my mom talks). So I called her up and pointed it out, thinking she just hadn't read that part. I read the line to her and said "Mom, are you SURE you want to be sending this kind of thing around?"
Again, she was angry and defensive. She was basically defending it. I was stunned, and my image of my mom took a hit that day.
And then finally, all her angry comments to me regarding my leaving the church. No effort to find out why I don't believe, just questions regarding my character, and frantic, often angry testimonies thrown at me.
So what's gradually starting to emerge now are two opposing images of my mom. First: The sweet, accepting, loving person I have always known but feels like she has to go along with everything church related, even if it goes against her better nature. or Second: A person who was always, just beneath the surface, a bigoted, angry and hateful person.
Honestly, I am still 99.9% in the first category but I hate the fact that mormonism has even placed that splinter in my mind.
One other thing, she's very smart and has all her faculties. This isn't a case of hr going senile.
Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 07/15/2012 07:25PM by Ihidmyself.