it really sells them short on THIS LIFE. The time to be happy, and live life is now. I really think emphasis on now is important, because it really is all we have. Everything else is just wishful thinking.
Maybe she puts a lot of trust in authority figures, but whatever the reason, she believes that, because it is what she has been told to believe.
A lot of people on the board suggest doing things that are more fun, because boring cult indoctrination cannot compete with real life. Why sit in a meeting, and imagine up a blissful afterlife to make up for the life you are missing out on, because you are in a boring meeting?
Instead of being born to believe, I think its more likely TSCC has been all-consuming in her life, and it is a shock to separate from it. It sounds like she has been indoctrinated well. This is how the cult gets a lot of older people to stay in. Their social connections, and entire life, and reputation become inseparable from the cult. When I was a kid I always had fun things to do, and things to explore. My parents encouraged me to pursue my hobbies, and cycling, and I even had a paper route. I am an introvert, so maybe she needs more social connections, and activities outside of the cult.
She has a lot of fears. I don't think fear over imaginary things is healthy. Making life decisions from fear or to alleviate fear is not a good option or sound choice. She is too young to make such a lifelong commitment, and especially to make it out of fear. TSCC loves to prey on the vulnerable. Maybe you can find ways to alleviate her fears. For me facts, and reason work, but my only experience here is I was once 10. Although, when I was 12 we studied mythology, and the Iliad, etc. It's been a long time since I have watched Joseph Campbell, but if she knew how all myths are pretty much the same theme that might eliminate her worries about trying to sort it all out, and give her a foundation for understanding religion in general. When you understand how there are so many which are so similar, and how a religion's survival is based on chance, often brutality, but not divine favor, it is easier to see the absurdity that there is *one* true one out there. That would be one fear educated out of existence. If you don't think you believe it, then learning these things is something you could do together.
This has a great summary of temperament type in children, and how it affects their learning styles. I don't think anyone needs indoctrination, but she might need structure or something else, that does not need to be found in religion. The real world does all things better than religion.
https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&q=cache:N0Xd0QZfIX8J:www.chhsweb.ca/docs/homework/Temperament%2520Types.doc+%22the+sj+child+is+apt+to+enjoy+having+routines%22&hl=en&gl=us&pid=bl&srcid=ADGEESjWisw6k6l_rtx8Swo7q0QKOUvlHMAL4cnd364eBgin5thtVkQ4tDGafJ3Bv5kLzy5vCwRnSK_-adV-2sHdVR2EHy48xDmDC9Hl7POUshh_-hfF--0xaJWB6AFrmleT5rZjYYvv&sig=AHIEtbTvLx49zTJzYegEg81D2OrdCjuUpQHere are some resources for raising freethinkers:
Parenting Beyond Belief has resources for raising freethinkers.
http://www.parentingbeyondbelief.com/Recommended Books & DVD's:
http://www.parentingbeyondbelief.com/resources/At the bottom of the page:
Links
Parents’ Corner on the Secular Web:
http://www.infidels.org/families/parents/America Online chat and message boards for atheist parents: Keyword Atheism, follow links
Yahoo’s Atheist Parenting group:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/atheistparenting/iVillage Atheist/Agnostic Parenting message board:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-ppatheistAtheist Parents: www.atheistparents.org
Family of Humanists: www.familyofhumanists.org
Ethical Atheist: www.ethicalatheist.org
Atheist Alliance Family Issues: www.atheistalliance.org – click on Family Issues
Humanist Network News – Sweet Reason: www.humanistnetworknews.org
American Atheists Youth and Family page: www.atheists.org/family/
Agnostic Mom: www.agnosticmom.com
The Atheist Mama: www.theatheistmama.com
Religious Tolerance www.religioustolerance.org
Beliefnet Belief-O-Matic Quiz www.beliefnet.com
Bible Gateway www.biblegateway.com
Websites for Secular Celebrations and Holidays
Secular Seasons www.secularseasons.org
Secular Celebrations www.secular-celebrations.com
The Darwin Day Program www.darwinday.org
Earth Day Network www.earthday.org
National Geographic Xpeditions www.nationalgeographic.com/xpeditions
Freedom From Religion Foundation www.ffrf.org
Family Education's "Build Your Own Stonehenge"
http://fun.familyeducation.com/outdoor-activities/winter/35028.htmlFestivus: The Website for the Rest of Us www.festivusbook.com
Secular Holiday Cards
Council For Secular Humanism www.secularhumanism.org/cards/
Abundant Earth www.abundantearth.com
Blue Mountain Arts www.bluemountain.com
Humanist celebrants and ceremonies
The Humanist Society www.humanist-society.org
The British Humanist Association www.humanism.org.uk – click on Ceremonies
Organizations
Freethought Directory:
http://atheistalliance.org/directory/list.phpAmerican Atheists (AA): www.atheists.org, www.atheists.org/family
American Ethical Union (AEU) aka Ethical Culture: www.aeu.org
American Humanist Association (AHA): www.americanhumanist.org
Atheist Alliance International (AAI): www.atheistalliance.org
Council for Secular Humanism (CSH): www.secularhumanism.org, www.inquiringminds.org/education
Freedom from Religion Foundation (FFRF): www.ffrf.org
Secular Student Alliance (SSA):
http://www.secularstudents.org/The Skeptics Society: www.skeptic.com
Society for Humanistic Judaism (SHJ):
http://www.shj.org/The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families www.dougy.org
The Good Grief Program at Boston Medical Center: www.bmc.org/pediatrics/special/GoodGrief/overview.html
Inquiring Minds: www.inquiringminds.org
National Geographic Xpeditions: www.nationalgeographic.com/xpeditions
http://godlessgeeks.com/LINKS/Debate.htmlFor Atheist Families & Children
Blog: The Meming of Life
Video: A Children's Guide to Traditional Religion
Atheist Parents
Raising Children with Secular Values in a Religious World by Natalie Angier
Universe Stories: Books & Programs for Kids
End Hereditary Religion
Godless Children & Family Religious Traditions: What Should Atheists Do?
Books:
* Just Pretend: A Freethought Book for Children
* Parenting Beyond Belief: On Raising Ethical, Caring Kids Without Religion
* Raising Freethinkers
* Onion Breath
* Branton’s Blossoms by Waymore Dendrites
* Illustrated Stories from the Bible (that they won't tell you in Sunday school) by Paul Farrell
The Magic of Reality: How We Know What's Really True, by Richard Dawkins
http://www.amazon.com/The-Magic-Reality-Whats-Really/dp/1439192812This is a book for children.
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