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Date: September 29, 2010 11:27PM
Any Christians who can give me some guidance re- my two teenage daughters? We left the church 4 years ago and have been floundering around - went consistently to one church for just over a year, which had a pretty good youth program. Then we changed churches, thinking it would be the best fit for our family. THe new church was so awesome, I didn't think to check out the Youth program. It turns out this church's youth program is totally lame. The girls, ages 16 and 13, have been through a lot with the switch from TBM to exmo - esp. the 16 year old. We've tried having them go to youth group at the old church, but they're just not that interested in any of the kids who go, so they're unmotivated to go.
Being raised TBM, it seems to me that involvement in some sort of youth program is super important - not just for the reinforcement of positive values, but for exposure to other kids who feel it's important to live by high morals (they don't see a lot of that at school -a lot of sex and a lot of partying). So, I've been working to find something that will be a good fit. We took our time looking into yet another church - which seems to have a nice youth program, but our kids - esp. the oldest, just don't like it! She's a really sweet, pleasant, likeable, nice girl and also very cool. She just feels there aren't enough "normal / cool" kids who go, and she doesn't feel like she gets anything out of it. Is she too picky - should I just keep "making" her go, hoping she "gets used to it and starts to like it" or should I relax about it and let her quit being a part of a youth group? (Is this just a remnant of my old TBM self feeling like she needs to have youth group in her life?) I also like the community that can be created by participating and feel like that could give her a nice sense of stability to draw on, even after she's moved away. (We moved a lot, then had 2 babies, then left the church - not much stability for our oldest!)
Thanks in advance for your thoughts.