Posted by:
finallyfeellikewoman
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Date: September 11, 2012 02:37PM
After years of research my husband and I have decided that the LDS church is just not for us. We are both converts of 9 years (were married with children already). This is still "fresh", I just told my mother a few days ago who is also a convert (only blood convert in my family) of 18 years. She took it better than I expected but asked us to continue to pray about it (sometimes I think she has the same feelings). We also spoke with the Bishop about our choice to be released from our callings and our decision to not attend church and not be visited by Home Teachers and Visiting Teachers. Told them we didn't want to be "preached to". Surprisingly they were kind, came to our house but did not preach, and wanted to know what our wishes were in reference to contact and how they could help with our girls (for activities). We have a young son and two teenage daughters (one in particularly has always been "strong" in the church). We knew that this would come as a shock as we were active by all means up to the moment we finally released our feelings. This was also a surpise to our children; therefore, we made the decision to support our daughters it what decision they made in regards to their activity in the church. I told them I would still take them to seminary (we have it early morning at 6am before school starts), mutual, dances, church, and other activities. That we would go to events/meetings that parents needed to be there (Camp meetings, seminary meeting, etc) to support them but that we would not be going for ourselves. We also agreed not to take our 5 year old son anymore because he was too young to choose and we didn't want him brainwashed anymore. The only thing is the more we think about it the less we want them to continue their membership in the church. We feel that they are "brainwashed" like we were. However, every time we try to talk to our one daughter in particular she gets really upset. We are drawing a fine line between supporting our daughters and protecting them. It's only been a week so we feel that maybe we just need to give it time; it's a lot to take in especially for a teenager. These past 9 years she has known and been surrounded by LDS life; then BAM we tell her it was all lies. I can only imagine considering all most all of her friends (all of the ones she "hangs" with regularly) are LDS. We don't live in Utah but an active area of Texas (Temple is 10 minutes away and there are 15 active LDS families in our neighborhood include Stake President, RS President and Bishop. All three of these leaders have children that are REALLY good friends with my oldest daughter). Has anyone gone through this? Any suggestions? Thanks in advance