Posted by:
ducky333
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Date: October 12, 2012 08:39PM
emma, it sounds like you're physically exhausted. That's what I took from your post without need for elaboration.
It is very hard to be a stay at home mom, and most people who've never done it don't have any idea how hard it is, from birth on up through the years where you're cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, taking kids to the doctor/dentist/eye dr/orthodontist, to ALL the church activities from Primary on up.
You also make sure they get to their various outside interests: cheerleading, t-ball, pitching machine, then softball, baseball, soccer, football, tennis, golf, basketball, dance, gymnastics, piano, band, play practice, craft programs,library reading programs, swimming lessons, the pool, skiing, etc. ad nausem. You buy them pets and make sure they take care of them, but you're the one who takes the animals to the vet.
Then there are all the school projects, Science Fair, cultural projects like foods from other countries (which we moms make), Language Arts fair, talent shows, Honors Day ceremonies where you serve food or drinks or paint faces or do any number of things. Or you volunteer in reading lab, math lab or computer lab. You serve as room mother and help with all parties and bake cupcakes, brownies, cookies til you wanna puke. Or you serve on school committees like PTO, Band Boosters, etc. You are the one who signs progress reports, report cards, and goes to parent-teacher conferences. Then there's help they need with homework. And if you're a teacher, you end up helping your kids' friends with it sometimes, too. You drive your kids to art shows and museums. You get up at 4 a.m. so your kids can get on buses to go on field trips.
You do birthday parties at the pool, the bowling alley, at miniature golf, at pizza places or hamburger joints or your home for each of your children. You take your kids to have pictures done individually and as a family. You have spend-the-night parties and drive your kids to other homes for spend-the-nights. You drive them to babysit or to buy gifts for others on any number of occasions. You drive them to school dances and church dances. You take them for hair cuts or to get their hair done for special occasions. You take them to rent tuxes or get prom dresses. Then there's carpooling, and if you're a SAHM, you get asked to cart extra kids around because other moms are at work.
That's all I can remember off the top of my head. I'm sure I'm forgetting things.
Yeah, there's a lot that's tough about being a stay at home mom. I finished a degree and worked when I had kids at home, too, and I still had to do 90% of the stuff at home every day (we just had a lady come in and clean once a week).
I understand why you wrote what you did. And some days, it sucks. It's a great deal of work, and sometimes it feels like no one notices. Luckily, most of the time it doesn't suck. But you have every right to feel exhausted. I can certainly relate. I'm exhausted again just thinking about it all again. But am I glad I could do it? Absolutely. It's the best job in the world (most days).
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 10/12/2012 08:40PM by ducky333.