Posted by:
Nightingale
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Date: December 31, 2010 11:42AM
For me, the priority that jumps out is that the kids need heat in wintertime, especially the youngest. I'd first direct my energies at solving that problem.
There are so many good ideas posted already. I agree with the idea of using a community resource, such as a food bank, to supplement your food supply, which can help you to afford the heating bill.
My priorities (says she who has no kids) would be food and heat and I'd look into anything that could help to maintain those and then deal with the other issues in order of priority from there.
I know it would be tough to approach the Mormon Church for help if you're done with it, and I would struggle to ask for assistance in that case so I can see your dilemma there.
However, the last bishop you had who said you shouldn't have been asked to pay tithing from that money could be helpful in that he already knows the issue and your situation and perhaps starting with him is the way to go. If he cannot find a way to give you the cash back perhaps he could do it "in kind" as in giving you food or helping to pay utilities, at least up to the amount of tithing the church wrongly received from you. Appealing to him and being straightforward and specific about your situation (young kids, no heat in wintertime) could be the quickest route to receive assistance in meeting these basic needs asap. (The kids could be in college by the time a law suit winds up).
If that is not practical (he's not bishop any longer or you've moved away or you can't stand going near a church building, etc) perhaps there are community resources, as mentioned above, such as Catholic Charities that gives assistance to anyone, regardless of church affiliation.
It doesn't seem to me that pursuing a (likely doomed) law suit is the way for you to go on this. I'd utilize that time and energy instead on moving forward from the tithing thing. I know $5K seems like the answer to your present challenges but think of the time, effort, stress and money involved in going after it legally. First, you'd have to have funds to pay the lawyer. That could stop you in your tracks right there. And how much would be left of $5K after paying a lawyer even a nominal sum? I've never been to a lawyer who didn't want $1K slapped on the desk just for starters and a huge percentage of any settlement after that, plus expenses. (Not that they don't deserve recompense for their work but even a few thousand dollars is a hardship for many people, no matter how much they need the legal help).
The idea to approach local businesses who need an expert seamstress is a brilliant one! It could help in the short term.
Re the career plans - I agree that the medical field is a good one. It's always in the top 10 list of long term reliable jobs in any economy and if you work in a hospital (as likely in the fields of x-ray techs etc) you will likely receive benefits and a decent salary (at least here in Canada). As far as I know, the courses for this type of work are relatively short (like 6-9 months or at least well under 2 yrs) which is also appealing in your situation I'm sure.
Another field to perhaps consider is electrodiagnostic studies, used in Neurology, that include electromyography and nerve conduction studies. Some hospitals train you on the job for that and again, the pay and benefits are decent (I live in Western Canada and this is my experience; obviously, it could be different where you live). This would be excellent for you as you'd get paid while you learn. It's also considered a "tech" position, I believe, and there are allied fields that you can also get certificates in, building up your training and experience on the job, with regular pay increases as you become more skilled. Even if you have to take the training before landing a job, I think it's in the order of months (maybe 6), again desirable for a woman with young kids who needs income asap.
There would be good job security, a nice working environment, nothing too gory, probably a decent enough salary and likely with benefits, and regular hours, likely office hours in this type of specialty, and you could get the training under your belt in the order of months, not years.
Being a tech in radiology involves more training but also results in a higher salary, as you likely know, and maybe it would be easier to find work. It all depends on your location and interests. Hopefully you can train and work in a field that most interests you.
Can you state your general location so people can give more specific leads or advice?
It would be great if you could keep posting to get more feedback and ideas and also to let us know that you're warm and fed and things are looking up. Good luck to you!
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 12/31/2010 11:45AM by Nightingale.