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anon_reg_poster
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Date: January 14, 2013 03:41PM
The uber controlling TBM ex has decided that I should have limited access to or even effectively no longer see my children because I am an active exmormon.
I sent an email requesting that we work out the schedule for summer time with my teen child at my home. True, I have most recently included my children in some of my exmo activities so that they can get a different perspective from the highly sheltered environment the ex sequesters them. The ex wrote:
" I expressed some concerns about your public criticism of the church and how that was impacting our children. You took them to an anti-mormon rally against my wishes. I don't feel like I can agree to extended summer visits at this time until you are able to understand and acknowledge the conflict your current behavior and attitudes are causing for the children. If you are willing to think beyond your own agenda and consider what is best for our children I will consider letting you have [child] for more extended time during the summer."
My teen child does not want to be raised a mormon, however the teen is baptized and isn't adamant about not going to church (gives into the ex readily). What I read is that my ex believes parenting time can be adjusted according to my religious (or lack of) practices where they differ from the ex's.
I believe I have a strong legal case because this is unacceptable from my rights. However, what I want to know is, what is best for the teen child. The conflict is never good. The children are essentially pitted between us because the ex uses my unbelief as a means to keep me from seeing and communicating with them as much as I (and they) would like. Even when I was not public about my disbelief, the ex still tried to impede my access. This has increased recently with my more open appearance as an exmo.
Should I give up my exmo practices (which have been substantial) in order to appease the ex? Should I give up on fighting this because even if I stop all exmo activity, the ex is likely to continue impeding me? Should I go to court and fight for my rights and more access to my children?
I truly want to fight hard. I want the access. But I don't want to hurt the children in this.