Posted by:
Sparty
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Date: January 15, 2013 08:46PM
The church hands out equal abuse, but in different forms...
For woman - the church teaches that they are not eligible for the priesthood, and therefore are spiritually subordinate to their 8 year old sons who have just been ordained a Deacon. The church teaches both men and woman (without really coming out and saying it directly) that the only place for a woman is in the home...it's the spiritual version of this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcNGYRKBfHAFurther, the church extinguishes all sense of ambition in all but the strongest-minded women. I have met truly brilliant and talented women in LDS, Inc. Woman who really could change the world as teachers, musicians, lawyers, doctors, you name it - instead, they end up abandoning their career ambitions early in favor of having a litter of little morgbots. The world is a little less wealthy without their knowledge and talents in the workforce.
Men - While I don't think most active TBM men would ever admit it, the church is just one big panic attack. Not only does THEIR well-being depend on their obedience to the church's teachings, but the well-being of their family depends on their worthiness as well. For most of a young man's life, it's all about gearing up for a mission - it's never really a matter up for much negotiation. If you don't go, you and your family WON'T get blessings and you MAY even suffer the consequences for your lack of obedience.
After the mission is when I believe the real abuse starts. Since the wife is at home tending to a small army, the financial burden of a larger family rests squarely on the man's shoulders - and while most TBM men I know are extremely hard working, very few make a salary that can really support a larger family. Add in the tithing requirement (have to get those blessings, afterall!) and the added burden of church callings (especially sacrificing your one day off to go scrub the skid marks out of Jesus' bogs) and it's a wonder that more TBM men aren't dropping dead of heart attacks.
I would say that women are more oppressed in LDS, Inc., but men definitely get their fair share of abuse dished out.