Posted by:
Notamo
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Date: January 28, 2013 02:54PM
My husband and I are sheltering a young woman 38 who was released from prison one year ago. She had been living with her mother, our neighbor, who died in her sleep in May leaving C. with no place to go. She has been in and out of trouble all of her adult life, sexually abused by step-father, her own father suicided, just a litany of unfortunate circumstances and bad decisions. Long story short, she was befriended by the service missionaries in the ward where she lived with her mother and where we live. We are not morms, although I grew up in Provo many years ago. So these missionaries gave her a min wage job in their little business and have guilted her into going to church, praying for a testimony, nag her to pay tithing, you can imagine the scene. C. has completed all her conditions of parole thus far, groups, classes, UAs, and is drug free. But she is starting to crack under the strain and pressure of these people wanting more participation from her that she can't honestly give. She feels obliged to cooperate because they have given her a job but so far their actions appear more like bounty hunters than Christians offering help in time of need. They treat her like a little child, express "disappointment" when she skips church or attends another one she likes. I know she needs to stand up for herself, get another job, move away from this situation and so does she. I guess I'm just venting and hoping that mormons who monitor this site, and you know they do, read this and learn about the harm that this sort of pressure can do to fragile individuals. She is genuinely doing her best, struggles to pay the bills she has accumulated from past actions, and just doesn't need this sort of "help." I try to stay out of her decision making process because, initially, I figured if it actually gave her hope and comfort who was I to interfere. It's been a year and all it's given her is ulcers and more guilt. Thank you all for listening. Any comments you may have will be appreciated so much.