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Mia
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Date: February 26, 2013 03:00AM
But for the grace of God there go I.
I've never had an abortion. I had two roomates who did. They were both a crying sobbing mess over the topic. They both kept a little area with something that would have been the babies. There was a candle to burn. It was a ritual full of heartbreak, what if's, and deep sadness that was smothered with guilt. The men involved didn't seem to care, and weren't interested in the subject of their children and what had happened to them. Snuffing out life and being left with a man with no emotions was by far some of the most devastating scenes i've witnessed.
Moving on. I'm 25. I'm single and in a long distance relationship. I have no idea what he does when were apart, and vs.versa. I come to realize i'm pregnant almost 6 months along. I can't say why, but i'm sure it's a boy. My BF mostly sits in stunned silence. He has his own history to deal with. It's not pretty. I go to sleep out on a raft in the river. I lay there all night watching the incredible beauty of nature. The full moon, fish jumping, owls hooty whooing, and cyotes howling like I would like to be. Long drawn out,lonely and sad. I know that the early morning sun will show it's face and put a stop to my urge to howl, or at least put it in a paper sack.
A boat goes by and the water sloshes up onto the makeshift dock we've been sleeping on. My boyfriend rolls over, and wraps his body around mine until i'm in a cocoon; I've never felt this safe. An orange ball of sun is sliding up over the hills and the water is rocking us in a comforting slap slap against the dock. For a while, it's us. Just us, and the baby. He sobs quietly on my shoulder. Swearing he's never loved anyone like he's loved me and his baby.
For a fleeting moment I feel beautiful, safe, loved, cared for, like everything is the world is right. Then, with a sob in his voice he said the words I knew were coming. You know I love you. You know we can't keep this baby. I wanted to put my arms around my baby and fly away. Far far away. I wanted this baby. With or without him. I had a good job. Medical insurance, and free daycare. I told him I was going to keep the baby. he would be mine, not his. He was very upset. He wanted me to abort. I told him I would think about it for 2 more weeks. I went home, and back to work.
I came home from work and was so exhausted. I layed there and wondered what it would be like to get peach ice cream on demand.
Suddenly, it was if a dam had burst. There was blood everywhere. I tried to stay calm, and put a big thick bath towel between my legs. I called a friend who drove 30 miles to come and get me. He rushed me to the hospital, picked me up and carried me into the ER, They took me right away. They sedated me, and did a D&C on me (no, not that stupid book). They returned me to my sobbing friend for him to take care of me. It was a quiet ride home.
As soon as we arrived I was on the phone telling the father of the child what had just happened. He sounded so relived. There was no comfort, no compassion, no sadness. I hung up the phone knowing I'd never talk to him again.
The next day I boxed up the little baby things I had. My baby was dead. I had two days off work. I laid in bed and cried. The day after that I went back to work like nothing had happened. Life went on. I didn't miss a beat. I felt like a robot that had no value, no reason for being. My baby died, and nobody except me seemed to care, and life moved on.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/26/2013 12:28PM by Mia.