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Date: February 26, 2013 12:56AM
I've seen at least a few posters who have indicated that they will serve missions--regardless of how incompatible posting on this board is with belief and missionary service.
I assume this is because of certain family expectations or restrictions (however unreasonable or unenforceable such limitations may be at the typical age of missionary service for young men and young women). So, whatever your reason for missionary service despite your disbelief or alternative beliefs, let the board help you serve with dignity whilst preserving your sanity and maximizing your opportunities.
First--If you go and you decide you really do want to stick it out, for whatever reason: pursuing a middle-of-the road course will help you stay under the radar while still permitting you to captain your own ship. Stray to far left or right of center and you endanger your balance--you will also likely make yourself a target of one kind or another. Be wary of being too visible... First establish a reputation for being staid, then feel free to bend and break minor rules. Don't go full bore right out of the gate.
If you go and decide you really don't want to stick it out, for whatever reason, you have a couple of options:
A. Quit or get sent home in a spectacular manner (i.e., get caught in a drunken orgy by your Mission President or buy a plane ticket home and arrange a surreptitious get-away before anyone else is the wiser).
B. Go home quietly, possibly retaining your "return with honor status"--get injured (only some injuries will warrant getting sent home). I don't recommend this. However, it is possible to fake psychiatric problems so as to render yourself seemingly unfit for duty. Don't be dramatic--instead, just emphasize your own regular neuroses (we all have them!) to the point that your companion and Mission President notice. If they don't, raise the red flag yourself and indicate that you are really worried about yourself. If you evince enough maladjustment, you might get the golden ticket you desire (I have a few stories about observing this kind of thing first-hand--feel free to ask if you want to hear them).
Now that that is out of the way...
Some basic rules for playing the game so as to not come out a serious loser:
1. Protect this house: your health and your wellbeing are YOUR NUMBER ONE concern--your Mission President won't care, your companion won't care, and your mission physician won't care. It goes without saying that the Lord doesn't give a damn, either. Don't get a tapeworm that will plague you for life. Don't develop chronic illnesses from the stress. Etc. etc. etc. Seriously, monitor yourself and at the first sign of distress get the attention you need and deserve. This may come at some cost (defying your Mission President, for example)--whatever it is, it is not worth endangering your own health and well-being in the service of a silent God and a fallacious religion. I can't stress this enough.
2. Middle of the road--I referenced this above. Seriously, it won't pay to be a nail sticking up waiting for hammer blows to fall. Play the middle of the road and you will be fine. Pardon my French, but keep your damn mouth shut, unless you are absolutely certain of whom you are talking to; i.e., the mission is a gossip hot bed. If you let it slip how you really feel, you are in for a world of hurt. This is fucking Stepford Wives, so get real. Don't talk. In your sleep. Ever.
3. Do no harm--don't teach falsehoods etc. If you must teach, teach true Church history and doctrines with enthusiasm (Joseph had 30+ wives! The temple used to require death oaths, but we did away with them! Did you know that blacks couldn't get the priesthood until the '70's! Be sure to mention tithing right away...). This will confuse investigators and prompt them to look further (especially if you encourage them to Google Joseph Smith, Helen Mar Kimball, etc.). Don't lead these people into the waters of baptism knowing that you don't believe a word of it. Do not harm. Enough said.
4. Use your time wisely: eighteen months or two years is a very long time that you could be gaining expertise in something else. So make this a priority. Educate yourself (read good books--a reading list appears below). Hone your talents (art, music, writing, etc.). Develop excellent people skills. If you are speaking a foreign language, learn it and learn it well. No excuses. Invest, pay the price, and reap the rewards. Someday you might need to translate MormonThink into Mandarin or something...
Don't waste your exercise time in the morning. You could return with honor able to do 100 push ups in a row without stopping, or with an extra 30 lbs. You decide. Running, biking, calisthenics, etc. are a great way to exercise without equipment.
If you would like links to great, simple exercise programs let me know--for the record, I can do 100 push ups in a row, 20 pull ups in a row, and 100 sit ups in a row inside of two minutes per each exercise; I'm not bragging, just letting you know that I actually have some knowledge and experience I can share. You owe it to yourself to make the most of this time.
5. Sleep. If you need more, make sure you get it (I don't care how, just do it)--if you have to pretend that you are an insomniac and can only sleep in the afternoon so as to get in an hour nap every day, do it. This is all a part of stress management, which also includes regular exercise, meditation, self-monitoring (see rule 1), eating right (ask for links if you need them...), and not being anybody's bitch.
6. P-Day--maximize it! Don't sit around doing laundry and all of the other BS they want you to do. Get out, see local sites. Go to the zoo, an art museum, etc. Be sure as hell not to do any missionary work on P-Day (at least until 6 PM, when you have to go back to the grindstone anyway).
7. Stay hydrated. No, really. Drink water throughout the day so you are peeing clear. Plants die when they don't get enough water. So do people. This is about being mindful and remembering to take good care of yourself. This is also about hydration. I believe in it. Whatever.
That's about it. I'm sure other posters will have some good ideas, too.
Now for that reading list:
Demon-haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark, Carl Sagan
Philosophical Thoughts of a Fighter Pilot, Jim Stockdale
Enchiridion, Epictetus
Anything by Plato, Socrates, etc.
Tale of Two Cities, Charles Dickens
Jurassic Park, Michael Crichton (its bitchin'!) This is just a reminder to read something fun, too, as needed. Educational material is crucial and great, but when you need to read something fun, that's cool, too...
The True Believer and the Ordeal of Change, Eric Hoffer
All books by Kurt Vonnegut
Short stories by Ray Bradbury--also Fahrenheit 451
A Brave New World, Aldous Huxley
We, Yevgeny Zamyatin
Animal Farm and 1984, George Orwell
All books by Albert Camus
That's all I can think of right now. It is late. I'll add more tomorrow as they come to me...
Also--take time to dream. Dream of the future. Make plans. Weigh them. And when you get home, shed the mission like an old coat and move forward with your life. Good luck!