Posted by:
Erick
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Date: February 27, 2013 11:30AM
I didn't have a bad experience with this personally, in fact, I still find my Bishop to be a likeable and decent person. There is little doubt that a lot depends on the Bishop's attitude...but a lot depends on yours as well!! If you come to the meeting with a chip on your shoulder, don't be surprised if the Bishop responds badly. Now, there's no guarantee that he still won't respond badly, but it's almost a guarantee that he will if you come in poorly.
For me it was important to attend the meeting, because, like you, my sudden innactivity was a bit of a surprise. I had been active, even serving in some higher callings at the Ward level, so I felt for the social implications, it deserved a little explanation. I chose not to go in to details about my objections with the Church, really at any point, in my interactions with my Bishop. I already knew that he couldn't help, and I wasn't interested in seeking his permission, but I still wanted to maintain friendship with both him and the Ward. To a large degree I've been able to do that. I simply explained that I didn't have a testimony of the Church, but that I wasn't interested in creating conflict in the Ward. Even to this day I see no point in serving another mission evangelizing a Mormon message, albeit an anti-Mormon message. My kids still play with the neighbor kids, they seem to let their kids play at my house, and I try to remain friendly.
Long story short, there are no guarantees, but you are at least half of the equation in this meeting. You don't need to assert your independence to a Bishop, if you have it, act like you have it and that will be enough. He has a right to take your temple recommend, you don't want, so don't stress over giving it up. In fact I might suggest that you hand it to him as one of your first actions in the meeting. "Bishop, with respect, I won't be attending the temple anymore, and given that I don't believe in the Church, I shouldn't have this and I have no use for it". If he presses you on why you shouldn't have it, you simply respond, "because I no longer believe in what this represents. Respectfully, but frankly, I do not believe in the restoration or the Priesthood authority". You may find the whole thing to be better than expected. I'm a big believer in standing your ground, by I also subscribe to the "Don't be a dick" M.O.