Posted by:
cludgie
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Date: February 28, 2013 09:25AM
I thought I'd pick this up again if only to say that people are giving you a lot of good advice, and there are probably plenty more who would like to weigh in.
I'd only say that one can have the best of both sides. You CAN meet with the bishop, but make it on your terms. You should definitely be controlling the situation and not be speaking to him from a chair across the desk from him in his office. That would assert too much control on his side. He means to humble you, perhaps even humiliate you, by bringing in your wife and controlling you in front of her. For him, this is kind of like a penile extension--my schwarz is bigger than your schwarz; I am more powerful than you.
Change the venue, like making the meeting in your house or at Starbucks, or in a local diner. If he wants to take your recommend, you can decide yourself whether you want to relinquish it. It is not a passport or military ID, in that it doesn't belong to the government or the church. It is your property. If you retain it, you have the bigger schwarz. Make him sweat a bit. Show him who is in control.
The ultimate humiliation in Mormonism is the "Court of Love," in which you are disciplined. You have now announced that you are in apostasy. The wages of apostasy in Mormonism is excommunication. But you have done nothing wrong, so you don't merit excommunication. It will send the wrong message to all the members of the stake, and the stake leadership will likely maximise the humiliation. You may have to now cut this off at the pass by resigning.
And how does your wife feel about this? Will she support you in your "apostasy."
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 02/28/2013 09:25AM by cludgie.