Posted by:
sparkyguru
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Date: March 08, 2013 12:01PM
my parents were first. they knew something was up, any decent parent would IMO. after eating I just said. I see no other way to say it, I no longer believe the church is true. Dad went immediately defensive, mom was stunned. dad demanded one reason, just one! mom calmed him down were were in a public place after all. I said its not just one, it is over 100, he wanted one, so i said the BOM isn't a true record of people on this continent, it cant be. he demanded to know how, I pointed out several of the reasons, that only made him more angry. took a deep breath and said I know this is a lot to take in and I can't expect you to understand in just a few minutes where I am coming from.
he bore his testimony, that didn't have the effect on me he expected. he asked if I ever had a testimony, I said I did, felt the spirit many times. then asked my mom if she every felt the spirit when paul h dunn was talking? she said yes, and then we found out they were lies, so in that case the spirit wasn't very accurate in telling the truth. I said god didn't give us a brain to just shut it off and not reason. that made her think a bit. I told them that my unbeilef didn't affect my love of family, they told me the same. they were stunned, and we haven't been shunned exactly, but dad did warn my siblings about my, offered them my 101 reasons to read too. I respected that.
He still doesn't want to talk about it though and that pains me personally. He is the bravest man i know, and this scares the bejeebus out of him. makes me mad that the church does that to people.
so in all went pretty well with my fam, but religion is the elephant in the room when I'm around, I hold back to keep the peace.
with the inlaws we followed the same formula a couple days later. my FIL i think might lean a little more our way than he lets on. but MIL is ready to see jesus in the second coming any day. I pointed out some facts that clearly upset her. and wife kicked me under the table for making her mom cry so i shut up.
inlaws said they still love us, mil talks to wife but i am avoided.
for both sets of parents being die hard TBM it went about as good as can be said.
the only down side is now im branded apostate so anything i say must be false. in hind site i might have been able to open eyes better with a fact here and there rather than laying it all on the line at once. i could have emailed toms interview for example and got the to listen where no they are to afraid to even consider it.
but it feels much better to be open on a personal level